Is it gonna end?

[dot.hawkes]

My daughter is off work with post bereavement depression, she went to the doctors yesterday and he has signed her off for another 2 weeks and given her another prescription, she has lost 4 friends in the space of 8 months and my two sons also knew 3 of the 4 very well and have all been very upset. i have just popped round to see my daughter and she is in a state, a close friend has died in his partners arms this morning of a heart attack, he was the godfather of the girl who died 12 months ago . What else can you do but look upwards and ask why? I knew him quite well and he was a real character and very popular in the village, we thought the last year had been bad but that things could never be like that again : (

[Louisa 69]

aww i'm sorry to hear that Dot. You've got to keep believing that it will get better for the sake of your daughter. I know it's a lot to ask but you need to be strong for her sake, just be there for her . Thinking of you xx

[bensmum]

I don't know what to say dot except that I'm sorry that your daughter is having to deal with all this. I read your posts during last year and it did seem as if that was a really bad year. It is always more difficult for younger people to cope with death I think - they (quite rightly) have little sense of mortality whereas as we get older we learn to accept it. Poor girl must wonder when it's all going to end and why all this is happening. I would be asking myself the same. She is lucky to have you to support her through it all. I do so hope that things get better soon for all of you.

[dot.hawkes]

i can;t beleive it is happening, when i was her age I had only lost my grandparents, it has been an unbelievably sad year for so many of the young people in this village and now they have all to get them damn black suits on again!!!

[yinyang]

It just keeps coming, doesn't it! : (

Sorry to hear this. When things like this happen you barely have time to draw breath and think about one thing before something else knocks you sideways.

I really hope things start to get better for you all soon. Take care.

[pastafreak]

Has your daughter had or considered berievement counseling? She is carrying a huge weight on her young shoulders,And most likely she has shared her grief only with those who also knew the friends who have died. A third party who is detached from the situation...yet open and sympathetic-may be worth considering. I hope she is not bottling everything up inside...that would do more harm than good. The more she can reach out,and gain support from others, the easier it will be for her to see hope. Good luck.

[valerieb1254]

So so sorry to read your post Dot. I'm not very good with words, but my prayers are with you and your family. All I can say is there is no justice in this world.
God Bless.
Val.xx

[dot.hawkes]

when she first had her breakdown she thought she would be ok but i knew she wasn't coping and so we went to the docs just after new year, she was given the medication and he got in touch with a counselling place at the hospital, they rang her and had a chat on the phone and then said she would be put on the waiting list, but should get a visit to her house in 6 - 8 weeks, so hopefully they will be seeing her soon, it is true though, when ever she gets together with her mates it is always the case that they are talking about the friends they have lost. It has been a year of anniversaries and dedications and funerals, it's been so tough for everyone who knew all these youngsters.

[pastafreak]

Phone CRUSE ...I think they may be able to help your daughter quicker!

[Drisgirl]

Aww Dot bless your heart -that is a cruel twist.
Concentrate on your daughter for what my opinions worth cos all the rest of the people will have people comsoling them.

Your daughter is the most important thing for you to focus on -to get her motivated again and to let her see that life is worth living.

I do wish her and J could have a chat cos they are probably about the same age -grief is grief regardless of how it manifests itself.

How old is she Dot and is she on Bebo?

[dot.hawkes]

she is 23 and yes she sent me a bebo invite the other night actually, she uses msn to keep in touch with her late friends sister in canada.
the link to her bebo invite just takes me to a signing in page, and i don;t have a bebo account that i know of, but i shall sign up .

[Beads]

Hello Dot
I am very sorry to read this post and feel for your poor daughter. I can only echo what others say and hope that your luck changes soon.xx

[Louisa 69]

Has she got any interests Dot ?

Obviously she has to deal with this in her own way and at her own pace. Would it be worth maybe arranging some days out like horse riding or go- karting or paintballing, it might be theraputic and help take her mind off it for a while.

Sometimes if we right down our innermost thoughts and feelings it can be a help. Do you think it would help if you bought her a journal.

[Louisa 69]

sorry that should have read *write*

[dot.hawkes]

my reply disapeared!
I may have sounded too careless when i said 'only' my grandparents, it was 1977 infact, i really can't remember how i felt back then.
Claire has garth brooks as her fave music on bebo, dris, she is like me, uses her proper name, so that means you can find her on there its no probs, she is only online when at her blokes and not there tonight. there seem to be two differnet membership numbers or something.,

[dot.hawkes]

louisa she has kept her diary since she was a teen, when we lost Danny in august she wrote on these tiny little notes that he had brought her back from egypt and she put them in his coffin. She does write an awful lot down, she was wirh me when my mum passed that morning in hospital in 2000, and she was only 15, but she wrote down everything about it and gave it to me in an envelope but i could never read it all, too emotional.