Why are men so hard to understand?!?!

[sazzle84]

Just met a lovely lad who is a complete gent. Last night he kept going on about what a great time he is having and he started making all these plans for the weeks to come then out of the blue i've received a text from him saying he doesn't wanna see me anymore.

How can you go from one minute wanting to plan a future and the next getting dumped? I just don't get it.

[jake-the-peg]

A complete gent doesn't dump someone by text.

Unless someone else sent the text from his phone that is

[joggerjayne]

Next time you see him, tw@t him with your phone.

Or I'll do it for you.

[jake-the-peg]

Better idea

Stop being wet.

Call him - ask him if he sent it and if he says yes tell him that only a total coward does something like that and to damn well stop acting like a 15 year old.

Then forget about him - you're well rid

[joggerjayne]

Yep, well said jake-the-peg.

(still tw@t him though).

[sazzle84]

Thanks for your comments.

He sent another text and after all the rubbish he was spouting yesterday he has decided he's not ready for a relationship.

At least i know now anyway.

[China Doll]

From the sounds of things, give yourself a pat on the back for a lucky escape. Doesn't sound like he's ready at all for an all growed up relationship and it's better you know now than six months later when a bunch of empty promises are all you have.

[jake-the-peg]

Text him back and tell him you weren't ready for a man without the b@lls to tell someone that to their face.

Then you need to really ask yourself if your ability to judge character might not need a little work.

Still better now that in a years time eh?

[sazzle84]

As tempted as I am to send him a text like that jake-the-peg i'm not gonna bother. Why waste my time on a loser like him.

I have learnt my lesson. Never trust men lol

[McNoodle]

...we're not all loser types like he sounds...

[helliebobs]

jake-the-peg, I don't get your point about sazzle's judge of character needing some work - how could she have possibly pre-empted that happening? Bit harsh methinks!

Sazzle, please don't lose faith in men! It sounds like a cliche but not all men are like that, honest! I had been single for a year until I met my current boyfriend after my husband dumped me when I was pregnant and, as most women would, I had become quite disillusioned with the opposite sex. It's early days for me, but I have met a really honest and decent bloke who looks after me, so there are some good men out there, this just wasn't one of them!

[China Doll]

I suspect never trusting men may be a little unfair on the rest of the male species... Some of them are quite nice I hear.

[Gromit]

I definitely would not describe him as a complete gent, if he has dumped you by text. How cowardly and ill mannered is that?

You are better off without a twonk like that.

[sazzle84]

Sorry to all the nice men out there. That was a bit harsh. Please forgive me.

I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you helliebobs but i'm glad to hear that you are happy now.

Although it isn't nice at the time it makes you stronger and you learn from things like this.

[helliebobs]

Exactly sazzle, that's how we grow and live, through our experiences!!!
Hope you find someone special - it often happens when you stop looking or when you least expect it!
x

[tiggerblue10]

A few years ago I was seeing a man I really got to like after a few months. I didn't fancy him at first but I gave it a chance and grew to like him. Then one evening I called him and he was working late and said he'd call me back. I NEVER heard from him again! I tried calling him after that but he never answered his phone.

At least you know how he feels and can get on with your life. I was left confused and upset but I guess I had a lucky escape.

[sazzle84]

Thanks helliebobs.

Thats terrible tigerblue10. It must have been horrible. I just don't understand some ppl. I could never do something like that. Yes its not nice telling someone you want to end a relationship but to just not get in touch is unreal!

[Velvetee]

Well they sometimes panic, if they feel a committed relationship is looming. It show's he's very immature and you are probably well shot of him.

[sazzle84]

Thought i'd better let u guys know that the prob has been resolved.

To cut a long story short the messages were from his jealous ex. As a result he has had to change his locks and will be getting a new phone.

Thanks for all of your advise.

[Lakitu]

How did she get a hold of his phone??

[sazzle84]

She was texting him on Sun so he left his phone at his house when he came to mine. When he left mine he went straight to work so didn't pick his phone up. They used to live together and she still has a key. For some reason she went round and saw his phone. She read his messages, text me then deleted my no!

Think she's a bit of a nutter to be fair.