Selfish boyfriend or me being lame

[sunchime]

Right!! I've just got off the phone to my boyfriend and we were talking about going to the casino tomorrow night. He is going to America (taking in Las Vegas, Northern ligts, Alaska etc) for 3 weeks next month and in the phone convo he mentioned Las Vegas casinos and i said in jest 'oh i can't belive you're going to Las Vegas without me!' and he got shirty and said 'well i did invite you'. HA!! We started dating in Dece,ber last year and he said he has been thinking about a 3 week america trip and asked if id like to go. I said id love to but wouldnt be able to afford it for at least a year. So that was that. And then in March, he booked it for himself and a mate from work to go on!! I would have loved to have gone, but couldnt afford a 3 week trip this year. So now anyway he is going and we havent been away at all this year as he has used all holiday and savings on this trip. His parents even gave him �5,000 after he saved the cash 'to enjoy himself.' I live by myself, he lives in a houseshare. we are both in our 20's. Is he selfish or am i lame? Just wanted to vent my anger! any opinions welcome thanks xx

[ceejn]

I think you are being lame.He DID ask you and you said you couldn't afford it this year.So he took you on your word. Or did you hope that he would pay for you?Cant see the problem with this,in your 20's you should be having fun.You sound jealous to me as well as angry.

[oldgrape]

lame

[terambulan]

Book yourself a holiday you can afford......dont tell him.....when he finds out tell him "you had to get away as u missed him so much"!

Have yourself a ball.......GO GIRL!

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[~max~]

He's not being selfish, he DID ask you. The fact you can't afford it is irrelevant, unless as said, you expected him to invite you for free! It's not his fault your financial situations are different, and if he wants to do something he has been planning for a long time, and you can't, then let him do it! I think you are being a bit jealous there.
Enjoy yourself while he's away!

[mangosam]

Hes a ************* ****, Tell him he should go **** himself because couples do things together and take trips together, and if he cant wait for you or pay for you, he should go **** himself. Your not lame you have been left behind and he seems happy about it because hes enjoying being selfish, dont take it babe, dont ****** take it.

[mangosam]

Sorry i get annoyed at this sorta thing, i apologize for bad language.

[Ethel]

You've only been seeing each other for 8 months - 3 months when he booked the holiday.

Can't understand why you're feeling angry.

[daisycup]

Jessss mangosam... hate to be in a relationship with you! It sounds to me that you are a little bit jealous. Book yourself a late deal with your mates and enjoy yourself whilst he is away. Life is too short, let him enjoy his self.

[obNOXious]

From a male perspective I can honestly say that behaving the way you are is very offputting to a man, as it smacks of self centredness and jealousy. You hardly knew the guy when he booked his trip and he invitde you, so why the hell are you getting so bent out of shape about things. Even within a relaitonship it's nice to be free to do things with friends etc, so as suggested just let him enjoy himself and you go off and enjoy yourself, and mangosam...you're just scary:)

[MORELLO]

Lame.

[MiniN]

book yourself on a cheap girls-only holiday.

but you guys haven't been together that long. your both entitled to go away without each other.

[Ronie-MayTee]

so not lame
i wood be the same if he went off and dun it
u shood go with him or tell him 2 stay put lol
i na he shood go out and have sum fun but tell jim 2 go to the pub or buy a bar with the 5 grand got lol xxx

[Ethel]

Is that in English?

[Petal~flower]

sorry, but why is she lame?

He was given �5,000, could he not of lent her some money?

[Velvetee]

I can't believe he didn't pay for you to go, my man would have.

[Petal~flower]

yeah, he sounds a right selfish git

[pastafreak]

I think a bit lame,hun....you haven't been together that long,and I think it would be a bit much to expect him to pay for you at this stage in your relationship......just enjoy the 3 weeks and go away with your matesif yoy can.

[Petal~flower]

yeah, go off and meet someone nicer lol