Unwanted Worries

[bemore]

Hi people. I would really appreciate everybodys views and opinions. Basicly my problem is my girlfriend, im a bit confused about her. We met over the internet, i went on a dating site for a laugh and a bit of fun. Not expecting anything to come of it. We started dating and 6 months later we are still together. What my problem is I think I like her a LOT more than she likes me. She has dumped every one of her boyfriends because they are too clingy, possesive and jealous. Im not clingy, possesive or jealous but recently things have changed. In all relationships one of the people does the chasing, at the start we bothed chased each other but now it seems to be me who does all the chasing. We live about 10 miles apart and I only see her wednesdays and stop at her parents house at the weekend. During the rest of the week we dont normally talk but occasionaly I will text her to see how she is. Sometimes she doesnt text back, and it annoys me. Part of me thinks so what, but then another part of me wants to know why.I know she is busy but its just a text back its not as if im asking her to marry me. The content doesnt have to be great, its just the though that counts. I dont want to bring the subject up because I dont want to sound mardy or possesive. Even though reading this back I suppose i am sounding mardy. She can be quite selfish around people and she sometimes treats people including myself a little bit harshly when she is in a mood. I would never do this to her and Ive told her that. So im facing a dilema, im growing fonder and fonder of her (hard as it may seem LOL) but im scared of growing too fond of her and it not being returned. Part of me thinks to dump her. But then selfishly part of me thinks I may as well stay with her until something else comes along. I hate myself for thinking like that. I suppose im just scared of getting hurt. Id love everybodys advice. Thanks : )

[jock.strap]

avoid making contact. let her figure out if she misses you or not

[lil123]

It's awful when this happens.
I met someone similar to you and saw him one night in the week and then stayed at his parents where he lived or he would stay here.
He wasn't telling me the truth about a lot of things and when I found out I was devastated.
I also went back on the site I met him on and there he was still on it saying he was single. He admitted he was just staying with me until someone better came along.
Looking back I had a very lucky escape.
When I look at his picture I think what did I see in that but at the time I was so vulnerable and desperate I think.
If you are not happy you need to speak to her as if you allow it to continue you will just get more frustrated and unhappy.
Just set the standard for how you should be treated. That's what I'm doing now and when I meet someone again I won't be making the same mistakes

[bemore]

Thanks Lil.

I will have a heart to heart with her.

Thanks again : )

[tigwig]

Sorry to say this but it doesn't sound like she cares as much as you do. I think you need to be honest with her and tell her exactly how you feel and what you want from the relationship and how she feels and what she wants.
At least then you will know where you stand.

[Whoever]

Reading between the lines I would guess that your girlfriend has a commitment problem and that she doesn't like you as much as you like her. If she were really keen on you she would be anxious not to lose you. She certainly sounds less than 100% enthusiastic about your relationship. If you don't want to get hurt, I'd suggest you gently start backing off, stop texting her first and wait to see if she instigates a few moves first. If she doesn't, this will be a pretty clear indication that she's not bothered about keeping the relationship going. What stay with her if this is the case, just until something else comes along? You'll never be able to progress a new relationship properly while this one is lingering around in the background. And what's wrong with being without a relationship for a while? You don't have to be joined at the hip with somebody all the time to lead an interesting and fulfilling life.

[bemore]

Wow great words of advice whoever. They rang true with me thanks again.

Peace