I am geuninely sorry to have offended you Daffy - when this was flagged up by the nursery I did an awful lot of research, I don't mean a quick look on the internet: I have a library, probably a dozen or so books on this one subject, and I couldn't understand why the nursery were saying my child was on the spectrum.
My one and only experience of Asperger's is with my child, so I can only speak from experience, and yes some of her foibles are on 'the list', but so are many of mine, so are many of her mother's, her friends, my friends - basically pretty much everybody has 'signs' of Asperger's and it really really pi55ed me off that the nursery were trying to 'label' a little girl who display a few idiosyncracies.
It is the labelling mentality I hate above all else.
A child displays certain foilbles - they've got Aspegers.
A child displays some behaviour issues - they've got ADHD.
A child struggles with words - they're dyslexic (sp?).
And because of this, because this bloody nursery raised this, I have turned into paranoid parent - and I bloody hate them for that.