never meet your heros

[mollykins]

I am in a kind of 'never meet your heros situation?'

Everyone thinks my dad is great, funny, kind, hard working. My next door neighbour who recently fell out with her only son, said she wishes he was more like my dad.

But i have to live with him and can't wait to move out. (please noone complain that i'm moaning, you don't have to live with this man)

~He always complains he has no money, yet buys at least £15 of food that is unecessary each week, then wastes half the meat - another ten pound at least, by not using the left overs. Yet he smokes and must spend £15-20 a week on that, so we could save about £50 a week (he tries to give up but he admitted that he doesn't really want to, but says he could easily if he wanted to)

~He is such a fussy eater, its rediculous, and saturday is normally the only night i get to have rice, noodles or pasta, and if i get a big pack of noodles i have a stir fry instead of a proper roast on a sunday. But the rest of the week its potatoes and rarely anything else.

~He took no notice in my school work, and didn't even know what gcse subjects i took, he thought i'd taken art instead of maths! But when i got asked to stay behind for revision, for my up coming exams, he told me off for getting a detention, which it wasn't, but he thought i got it because i weren't paying attention in lessons and needed to catch up.

~My oldest brother is 24 years older than me, and i think he thinks that he can bring me up the same way that he did him and my other siblings, but times have moved on, until i'm eighteen the only boy thats allowed round, is my gay friend, who i've known since we were 8.

So am i living in a never meet your heros situation, and if people had to live with him all of the time, would they feel the ame way about him do you think?

[ummmm]

There's more ways to spoil a child than spend money on them.

Spoilt people cannot see others points of view. As you're doing in this thread...

[mollykins]

People complain when i don't respond to them, so i'm responding, then i get moaned at for going on, i can't win.

[sara3]

molly, everyone wants you to put a sock in it, I promise.

[Riss]

Don't know if any of the others have said it,but how about a Saturday job? I had one at 13,and worked ever since.

[boxtops]

Molly, I guess most of us moaned about our parents when we were your age - I know I did. You do get over it.

[mollykins]

So in what other wa could i be spoilt? I've always had to do housework, so i can't be spoilt for not having to do anything a be lazy.

[standian]

Please stop - it's really uncomfortable - you are never going to convince anyone that you have it tough. I know you think you are responding, but really you are confirming some of the comments made about being self obsessed and spoilt. I am sure that you have much better things to do with your time.

[mollykins]

Riss, there are very few saturday jobs, i live in a little village and even the nearest town, there a few jobs and the round trip would probably take 1/3 of my wages away if it was only a couple of hours at a time.

[mollykins]

Please tell me how i am spoilt?

[ummmm]

Your moaning...!!!

You think 1 hours housework is bad...

You're spoilt because you cannot take on board what people are saying.

[mollykins]

And i weren't allowed to get the papaeround because it would involve me walking round at dusk, which i was fine with.

[mollykins]

How is that spoilt? I am, just coming up with responses to them. Am i not allwoed to reply to people now? a minute ago, i was being told off for not responsing to people.

[sara3]

you have nothing positive to say about anything suggested, so button it.

[mollykins]

Fine the lifestyle they are making me live will kill me, is that something to moan about.

But i didn't start off this thread, intending to moan, i was asking if i would think he was brilliant if i didn't have to live with him. Like when people say the phrase, never meet your heroes, where if there is someone you admire, you shouldn't get to close to the else, you see the other side of them? thats all i wanted to know.

[standian]

Yes - never meet your heroes - it will almost always disappoint. Please does that end this pain! It's like an operation on TV - you don't want to watch, but can't stop yourself.

{Not that I understand what that question has to do with the rest of your post as your dad is clearly not your hero and the saying is not about meeting the heroes of other people, but about meeting your hero}

[mollykins]

I wouldn't say they are talking rubbish, maybe understand my situation a bit better and hopefully answer my original question.

[Sachs]

Hi molly,
just re - reading over your thread. What height are you?

[mollykins]

I think he alright, but would probably think the world of him and he probably would be my hero if i didn't have to put up with him all of the time.