Naomi@
//Deserving’? That’s not the reason I give. If I were that judgemental, I wouldn’t give to some, but I do because I love my family and friends. I give because I want to.//
As mentioned on another thread, you got the wrong end of the stick. Deserving does not necessarily mean being judgemental. True, you give to those you love eg family & friends. I was referring to the fact that some people give because it is expected of them or because they received back and feel obliged to.
I give to my family and friends whenever the urge takes me or if I see something I know they will like.
But take the example of a naughty child. Would you give him a present after he has been particularly naughty, or would you wait until he was exceptionally good? If you gave him a gift after being naughty would that not mean you are rewarding his bad behaviour? Surely in this particular instance it would could be classed as meaning "he was not deserving" but later, if he did something particularly outstanding and you then gave him a gift, that would express your approval and love for him.
But I wait with bated breath for your twisted interpretation of this!