Bone Cancer And Organ Failure

[nailit]

As most on here know, my mum was diagnosed a year and half ago as having terminal bone cancer.
Told at the time that, in time, she would lose the use of her arms and legs etc. Thats happening now.
However, the past few weeks she has been experiencing other symptoms such as constant itching etc. It transpires (via blood tests) that her liver is packing in. GP rang my sister to relay the news a couple of days ago and said that it was common with terminal bone cancer patients.
She also has kidney failure.

I know that doctors arent psychics but from the above has anyone any idea of how long my mum has left?
Sorry to say but Dougie Mac have been less than useless re: home care and wishing to die at home

[Mamyalynne]

It's very difficult to quantify the time that end stage will take, sorry Nailit.

[nailit]

Thank you Mamy

[woofgang]

Nailit I am so sorry. I honestly don't think apart from saying "not long" its possible for anyone to say.

[nailit]

Must have some idea tho...?

[nailit]

I'd never thought that I wished for someone to die, if only to relieve them.
I feel as guilty as hell for wishing this on my own mother.

[Mamyalynne]

Don't you dare feel guilty, you don't want her to suffer - your feelings are normal and rational.x

[237SJ]

That's a difficult one. As far as I remember your Mum had breast cancer that spread to her bones which isn't bone cancer per se. Patients can lose the use of their limbs if the cancer is in the spine but that is not always the case.

[nailit]

237,
My mum had breast cancer several years ago.
Apparently survivors are more suseptable to other cancers down the line

[nailit]

//Don't you dare feel guilty, you don't want her to suffer - your feelings are normal and rational.x//
Thanks.

[237SJ]

It's the.same cancer Nailit, just in different parts of her body. That is the way of the disease unfortunately.

[nailit]

I just want to fuc.ing scream!!!
Wheres all this help??????????

Its all cobblers
My mum can now hardly get out of bed, BUT Dougie Mac are there. Yeah of course they are...
Boolarks.
Get a life forgods sakes, no they fooking arnt!
never have been

[Tilly2]

ails, I won't go into details but I too wished that my mum, who was suffering terribly, would die swiftly. I responded to the telephone call, from the doctor, of her death with. 'Oh, thank goodness for that.'

It still haunts me, 24 years later, but I couldn't have seen a better ending to her pain. It's natural to want the best for them, when all the options run out.

[Mamyalynne]

It's awful that you aren't getting the help you all so obviously need,I know it's 12 years ago for me but my Husband's GP and the District Nurses made it possible for me to nurse him at home.

[ummmm]

Have the hospital/doctors not given you any indication?

[Cloverjo]

I’m very sorry, Nailit. I know how you feel. When my mum’s cancer got to her brain she lost the use of her limbs.

I don’t know who you mean by Dougie Mac, but if you mean MacMillan nurses I sympathise again. Worse than useless.

Do you have a district nurse who comes in regularly?
WaterBoatman volunteers for a hospice that looks after people in their homes. Is there something like that near your mum?

Best wishes, and don’t feel guilty for wishing her to be at peace.

[MartinMillar]

Nailit they can only estimate and that means nothing we were told that dad had 9 months and in the end we got 3.
My thoughts are with you

[Theland]

Hi Nailit. I can only offer you my love and sympathy and pray for your strength to see you through this terribly difficult time.
I hope your mothers pain is well managed and she experiences only love peace and comfort. Best wishes.

[Old_Geezer]

Not really knowable, if my mother's experience is anything to go by. She carried on for a lot longer than one might expect, but when it was her time it was fairly quick.

[nailit]

//Have the hospital/doctors not given you any indication?//
Nope ummm.
Remember sitting with her up at A&E all those months ago and some doctor says to me that mum has terminal cancer, like mum has grey hair!

Just stumbled along since.
GPs, Dougie Mac, etc. Less than useless, couldnt make some of this sh it up.

[Mamyalynne]

DougieMac has a 24/7 phone support line.

Try phoning and telling them how alone you are feeling with this.

https://www.dmhospice.org.uk/how-can-we-help-you/carers-families/