Living in sin

[4GS]

Just read a reply from another ABer on another chatterbank post, where she says "most people are living in sin these days". and I wondered, do people still see co-habiting/living together out of wedlock as living in sin? using the word 'sin' would suggest that there are guilty feeling about not being married,
What are your thoughts? sinfull or not?

[4getmenot]

Oooh who would that be :-) lol No it was just my way of putting it as I couldnt think of the word co-habit :-) It wouldnt bother me at all if I lived with him out of marriage. My mum tried keeping us kids from doing it by saying if we moved in with our partner before marriage they would only pay for half wedding and if we didnt they would pay for all of it. It didnt work for redcrx or bro and I'm never getting married :-)

[4GS]

Just thought it was an odd thing to say, in fact I havn't heard anyone call it 'living in sin' for ages

[warpig3]

well as I live wiht someone but am not married I don't see it as sinful, however mrwarpigs mother has another opinion! When she found out we were going to co-habit I think the words 'the shame, the shame' were used. When she was told I was pregnant, well, poor woman, think it nearly sent her over the edge. That said, she is a very devout catholic who will not reason with anyone who does not agree with her 'school' of thought.

[redcrx]

mum may have not been happy when i did it at 18 but we were engaged and eventually married.

Following the divorce 10 years later i think she isnt so worried. After all, my 'sinful' relationship has produced her first grandchild and the 2nds on the way :)

[redcrx]

2 children = less commitment

oh yeah, thall be right leg lol :)

[4GS]

I wouldn't say there is less commitment when cuples are living together as oppased to being married leg end, especially where children are concerned.

[4getmenot]

nope just no piece of paper. getting married doesnt make you love them any more or less

[Reverandfunk]

I live in Birmingham. Not Sin

[4getmenot]

I'm sure its just as bad rev if not worse

[Gromit]

Just the phrase "Living in Sin" is very judgemental. It carries a disapproving message.

So, only people who are judgemental and disapproving would use the term. I suspect that there are still quite a few of them about.

[4getmenot]

yes but 2 loving people would make no difference in commitment if they were to marry. and legend I dont think theres any difference nowadays to walk out of a marriage or just the home. Divorces have become so much easier.

[4getmenot]

ok how was your divorce legend?

[4getmenot]

and what about you redcrx?

[Goodsoulette]

I wish I had been married when I split fro my ex, it might have protected my rights to what was rightfully mine when we did split instead of ending up with nothing, after workin 60 hurs or more a week for when we were together.

Marriage costs money at the end of the day, even if it is the cheapest little ceremony going. I have better things to spend cash on than a piece of paper telling me I am in a relationship and I dont need my love sanctified by god. If you need this t make your relationship secure then surely its those that are married that have a weaker relationship. With more than 1 in 3 marriage ending in divorce now surely that craps all over the less commitment thing.

I knwo many cohabiting couples that have stayed together for over ten years, I know more in marriages that have divorced before that time though.

[4getmenot]

exactly goodsoul, nowadays marriage is more about having a big party

[redcrx]

my divorce was easy, the decision wasnt