What's the point...?

[Whickerman]

I've just come in after paying a visit to my Grandad. He's the giant that brought my little brothers and me across fields to hunt for leprechauns. He's the one who taught us to climb trees and play conkers. He's the patriarch of a family comprising his 8 children, 2 step children, and 31 grandchildren - every one of which he spent every living minute with. He's the one his dozens of great grandchildren consider Grandad. He's the one who taught us all about growing vegetables and fruit trees long before there was a green movement, just because it was the good thing to do. He's the giant who's so small in that bed, the one the cancer's finishing off.
Sorry - not a question really. Just a rage against a cruel world.

[Bathsheba]

Surely you've just answered your own question Whickerman ! That was the point- all those wonderful ways he enhanced the lives of all of you x

[bensmum]

Those were really moving words whickerman - I can understand your anger,

[cruella]

Whickerman,
Know just how you feel.
Think nearly every family is affected by this.
You have every right to feel the way you do. x

[weeal]

sorry to hear that Whickerman, tho what a wonderful giant he has been, much admired and will always be remembered by so many people

it is a cruel world

[luna-tic]

I am so sorry to hear about the tragic way a man so devoted,so full of life and love of his family has been affected by this terrible illness.
My thoughts are with you and yours Whickerman.
Your Grandad has given you all a great gift of knowing about the wonders of nature and keeping the young imaginations in awe of the world.
His passion for life will be in your hearts forever.

[naomi24]

Whicker, I am so very, very sorry. This is the hardest time for you. I feel the pain in your words, and can practically hear it in your voice. Be strong in your heart, Whicker, try to accept that death is a part of life, albeit the most painful part, and feel proud and privileged to have known such a wonderful man. You have been fortunate indeed.

Much love to you.

Naomi x

[WaldoMcFroog]

Sorry to hear that, Whickerman.

[mibn2cweus]

Thanks for sharing this reminder of how precious our time on this Earth is.

I imagine that one of grandpa's biggest regrets right now is that he is currently the focal point of so many others contempt for the cruel side of life when what he needs the most right now is to know that his life gave meaning and value to those he helped teach to live. Show him you learned your lessons well by not allowing his pain to become your master. He does not deserve that and neither do you or anyone else his life has touched in a positive way.

Thanks again for sharing.

[Whickerman]

Thanks guys.

[cruella]

Just hang in there, hard as it may be. xx

[aka.pixi]

reading your post made me all teary eyes. i'm very sorry to hear bout you granddad. my thoughts and prayers goes out to you and your family.

[dustypuss]

my granddad was the one that sat me on his knee rubbed his whiskers an my face taught me how to make do and mend .showed me how to be patient and not rush things
he died of lung cancer ( I not surprised at that as he grew his own tobacco ) . this was 40 years ago and i still remember all this. To answer your question WM I think that is the point .he gave me so much i will never forget the things he taught me .

[Booldawg]

My Grandad is the one man I wished I'd known when I was alot older; he died when I was 10 and looking back there was so much more I'd appreciate about him now. I see so much in him that is me now and not who I was when I was younger.

You really have to apprecitate every moment you spend with the older generations in your familiy now.

[figure]

Whickerman - granddad will be ok. Right now he's more concerned for his family than himself. Healing vibes are on the way to granddad. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Bless. xx

[keyplus90]

Life in this world is temporary. People come here do all the things good or bad and move on. One day every one has to go. Most important thing is that person should be remembered in good words. And for people to remember someone in good words, they have to appreciate what he did for them in this world.

I am sure your granddad has done all those things for you and your family and given you enough memories to keep him in your hearts for ever.

I am afraid that's all we can do, and we should pray to God "Has mercy on them the way they were kind and protective to us when we were weak and vulnerable". May God make things easy for your granddad.

[Clanad]

While not wishing to intrude, Whickerman, I'd like to share a poem that someone, totally unknown to this day, left in the Registry Book at my Grandfather's funeral... I often read it and I'd simply hope it brings comfort to you at this difficult time...

Three days.
6 hours.
No sleep.
For when he died,
He lived all he could.
For when he suffered,
He never showed it.
For all the grieving,
He was there
Even if he couldn't show us.
For when his sister died of the same disease,
He was stronger,
more alive,
More powerful.
He died in the end.
With a smile he passed on.
With all he did
He lives in all of us
Even if they couldn't feel it.
He needs us more than ever
To tell our children
About the good,
Never about the bad.
He taught me that,
He taught my mom that,
He taught his daughter,
He taught everyone.

Shalom....

[Theland]

Whickerman - I am so very sorry.

[perigra]

bless you wickerman

memories are great!

[China Doll]

I was tempted to say 'good f***ing question' but it sounds likes you're maudlin enough for both of us.

Cancer is an evil disease and I'm sorry to hear of your bad news but you did already answer your own question. The point is to do all thouse things he taught you to do and then teach someone else you love to do the same.

Take care pumpkin.