this is so confusing

[pompomfairy]

AB people i need all the advice i can get. My best mate who is a guy has just got a new girlfriend and i am so jealous, i mean he has had girlfriends before and ive been fine but i am so jealous he asked me to go out with him about 3 months ago but i said no which i regret now, i real do love him to bits and want him to be happy but i want it to be with me not this other girl, it all started when we were at the fun fair that had just come to town and we went with sum close mates and we got real close to each other just hugging and a few little kisses and things but nothing to say we were together and then he goes out with this girl i like him so much do you all think i should tell him or let there relationship run its course and wait for them to break up we are still at skool and dont want things to b weird between us while we are still there. i dont even think they are happy together but he real wants this to work with her but i cant help think i could make him happier . i dont want to hurt my best mate coz i totally love him to bit should i not tell him how i feel and move on?? HELP

[Scarlett]

Didn't this happen in "Friends"? Where Rachel realised she wanted Ross, went to meet him at the Airport and then he was with Julie!

You need to be absolutely sure of your feelings for him. You can't sabotage his relationship if you are simply jealous. If you REALLY want to be with him, and I mean, for a relationship, not just for a couple of weeks, then I think you need to tell him how you are feeling.

If you are still at school then of course there is a 90% likelihood that they WILL break up. Also bear in mind that you will have a longer and better relationship with him as a friend than as a boyfriend. Friends last much longer.

[Rubyrose]

If I were you I'd tell him now before it has a chance to get serious with this other girl. I am a firm believer in 'wearing your heart on your sleeve'. If you don't put yourself out there then he will never know, and after all he liked you first as he told you. Tell him the truth, that seeing him with this other girl has made you realise that you like him. It probably won't affect your friendship as you're still friends after he asked you out and you said no. But do it now before he decides to take things with this new girl to a new level or before anyone can get seriously hurt. Good luck hun. Remember - If you don't tell him, he will never know so he can never decide. xx

[ICEMANSAV]

If you love him, you would put his happiness before your feelings for him. Therefore let him be in his relationship and be there for him throughout, being the shoulder to cry on and the person to laugh with. If the relationship does run its course then be there for him and he may see you in a diffreent light to your current status to him ( friend ) and decide to progress the relationship. If it doesn't you have to be prepared to accept he is happy and respect that, go out and meet people, you may find the qualities that you look for in him, in another and both of you can share in each others happiness content you have found your own.

[Ward-Minter]

Is a menage a trois completely out of the question??

[Englishbird]

WARD-MINTER!!!!!!

which part of 'still at school' weren't you getting. You're one sick puppy lol.

pompomfairy, go with your heart.  No-one ever got hurt by being told they're loved.  You know the people involved, but as scarlett said, be very sure of your feelings first. He may just be going out with this girl to make you jealous! you never know.  And if you and he are very close, she may get jealous of you and therefore it won't last long anyway.  Put your friendship above all else, as friends last a damn site longer than boyfriends x good luck x