Would/could you forgive an affair?

[Missyme1208]

I don't get these women who take their partners back after all of five minutes when they have completely disrespected them in the way that they have
One off cheating i'd probably forgive and let go - ONCE.
....but an actual affair that has gone on for a period of time,with all the lying and the secrets and the phone calls and/or "sexting" that's involved...

I honestly don't think i could forgive that.

[lotsafun]

theres no excuse for cheating butlike you i could probably forgive a one night stand, of course i would cut me deep and id never forget it but i do believe in second chances, but that is all he would get!
An affair i would never forgive......ever!

[caslass]

Everyone is different missy. Some people are strong and can manage on their own, others are not. Imagine yourself in that situation, no money, no family around to help you through. Don't be so harsh. Like I said we are all different.

[poodicat]

Been there got the t shirt divorced now!!

[ummmm]

I would not, and have not, forgiven an affair. I would not forgive a one night stand either. My partner knows for a fact that I stand by that as he has known me for a long long time and watched me kick the cheating Sugar out the minute I found out. He also watched me not entertain him again....he knows what I'll do if he cheats.

I don't cheat....I will not accept anyone that cheats on me.

[Missyme1208]

Hi Caslass, I'm sorry i didn't mean to offend anyone.
If anything, you'd have to be amazingly strong to forgive something like that.

[Greedyfly]

Mine was a little different. My partner was distant for months and I had an inkling it was to do with a girl he worked with. He was going out for drinks after work, texting alot etc... One day he came home real late, drunk and told me that he wanted to leave. Wouldnt give me an answer why so I told him it was because of this woman at work, he admitted it. He told me that they hadn't slept together but that he wanted to be with her. I was totally crushed after 5 years together. We had to stay living together through this and after a month of being 'single' I confronted him, he hadn't been out with her once since he left me. He admitted it was all a mistake and that he loved me. I always said I would never forgive an affair, I know nothing physical went on but it felt worse than that. I forgave him and we have been together nine years now. I suppose ou can't really answer this question without the experience, because you dont know how you will feel. If it ever happened again I would walk away. Once is a mistake, more than that is the end.