Is he 100% to blame?

[anotheoldgit]

http://www.dailymail....esotted-pupil-14.html

After viewing these photographs, can anyone, apart from myself show just a little sympathy towards this young man, who has been called a pervert, child abductor etc, etc/

Yes he has betrayed his wife, abused his position, been foolhardy, broken the law and also lacked a certain amount of self-control, but is he 100% to blame?

[hc4361]

Are you saying that you were unable to say 'no' to a 15 year old girl when you were 30?

[excelsior-1]

good afternoon anotheroldgit.

my short simple answer . . negative, she knew exactly what she was doing.
this was, in my opinion, a joint decision.

[Psybbo]

I feel very sorry for all of them, including him

[hc4361]

So, excelsior, you believe a 15 year old girl is mature enough to make life changing decisions?

[B00]

Yes, yes he is.

[ummmm]

Yes.

[kat2206]

Yes, in my opinion he is 100% to blame. He is the authoritative figure, he is the adult. All "little" girls at some point have a crush on their teacher, it's up to said teacher to act and be a mature, moral citizen.

This man certainly did not portray any of this.

[hc4361]

Most men have been the object of a teenager's crush - often their mates daughter or sister.
Most men handle it well.

[ummmm]

I wonder if the divide in peoples opinions has anything to do with them being parents to daughters.

[jackthehat]

Just as well he wasn't brown........

[mrsmaveric]

a.o.g you have raised 5 points in your post as to why he is 99.9% to blame...

[hc4361]

I'm not a parent of a daughter but I was on the embarrassing end of a schoolgirl's crush when I was in my 20s, and 30's.

[ummmm]

I agree with that hc. I had a serious crush on my dads mate (I'm now with his Nephew..lol) He knew I had a crush on him so was just really nice to me while keeping me at arms length.

[erin-x]

So are you all trying to say that she was completely innocent here?... I just don't buy it.

[B00]

no she wasn't erin, no. But as the grown up, and the one with a position of trust, not to mention married he should've said no! Are you saying that he was incapable as she was "such a little minx"? How pathetic does that make him?

[hc4361]

I don't think anyone is saying she is completely innocent.
But every adult has the responsibility to discourage children's untoward affections and not encourage a crush.

[kat2206]

Not saying she was innocent but she is only 14/15 years old. He is the mature adult in this situation and should have nipped it in the bud when he first noticed her crush..

[wolf63]

He isn't completely to blame - but he should have known better than to act the way he did. They were seemingly on their way to find work - did either of them think that this was really going to work?

At 15 she may have pictured living happy ever after - but it shows him as being very immature.

[hc4361]

She was 14 when the relationship started.

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

I feel sorry for both of them.