Why Does He Still Message Me?

[abbeylee90]

The sleepover guy I've told you about still messages me now and again even though last year I said there was no point if he didn't want to see me again. When I said about meeting again last year his response was 'I'm sorry I'm just so busy and well I gbh.  I do like ya alot your a nice person but I just don't think where on the same wave length. Like  we have a good time but I feel there's something missing'. 'I mean I want to meet again but as mates'. What do you think this is about? 

[newmodarmy]

Have you not posted that message from him before - several months ago

[Neveracrossword]

Can't you block him? 

[albaqwerty]

He wants to keep you on a piece of string to see if you're that desperate. You are worth more than the occasional text from this chancer.

[calmck]

He enjoys your company for a casual date but does not think you have enough interests in common to develop a relationship

[abbeylee90]

Yes but posted a new thread. 

I don't mind him messaging I still hsve feelings. 

What do I do about it? 

[newmodarmy]

Either block him or say you'd like to meet up again and see how things go.

 

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, he thinks you're mates, that's all- you obviously are hoping that this will change into something deeper.  If he messages you only 'now and again', that shows how often he thinks of you - rarely! 

[abbeylee90]

OK was hoping I don't upset guys. 

[abbeylee90]

I said to him is it lack of stuff in common

[douglas9401]

One or both of you want sex. Get on with it.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, are you really wanting honest advice, or do you want us to say 'Don't worry, he'll suddenly realize you are the one for him'? And do you not think you spend too much time thinking of all the things in your life not going the way you want?

[scorpiojo]

Is this the one you "accidentally messaged" recently?

[rockyracoon]

It sounds like he's looking to have a bit of fun with you, but has no plans to take you home to meet his mum.

Steer well clear

[abbeylee90]

No I'm saying he think I'm the one but it was random 

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, that comment doesn't make much sense, and who were you replying to? 

[DDIL]

Is this the one where you posted a month ago that you still have feelings for?

How long did you date for? If it was for a long time then its normal to have feelings for him.

[newmodarmy]

//he think I'm the one//

I can't see anything in what you've told us that he's said that would suggest he thinks that. Unless he's talking about sex rather than a loving relationship

[Rosetta]

He is not looking for "the one", he is after casual sex and is keeping you stringing along in case you change your mind. I would place a bet on the chance he has also got other women he is stringing along as well as you. You deserve better and if I were you I would ditch him quick

[newmodarmy]

But maybe that'll satisfy abbey- maybe the feelings she has are the same as his.

[Hazlinny]

Abbey, have you actually met him on a previous occasion - have lost track!