The answer you are looking for may be that you need more time to view and then, if desired, delete, before the message is automatically �opened�.
If so, on the Outlook Express tool bar click �Tools�, then click �Read�, then, under Reading Messages, put a tick in the box against �Mark message read after displaying for� X �seconds�. Then, in place of X choose however many seconds you need to respond before the message is automatically �opened�. I choose 20 seconds, which I find long enough.