People always moaning my fathers estate should have gone to charity.

[Glendor]

My father passed away last June after suffering with dementia for nearly 4 years. My mother passed away in 2004 and my wife passed away in 2006.
My younger sister passed away when she was 16.
I sold my house after my wife passed away and lived with my father as I inherited my mothers share of the house and cared for him until he had to go into a home for the last 9 months of his life with advanced dementia.
Fortunately I had early retirement.
I am just fed up of people saying time after time my parents house should have gone to charity.This is the house I am now living in.
I am just wandering if any of these people think if they would like to be in the position I am in.

Glen

[sandyRoe]

What people? It's none of their business and they literally don't know what they're talking about.

[sunny-dave]

Took the words out of my mouth Sandy - ignore them Glen and (after a series of sad losses) try to get on with enjoying your retirement.

[boxtops]

Glen, that's appalling - what people? you have been bereaved of your sister, your wife and both parents, the house was your inheritance. Live in it and enjoy it - tell them to mind their own business. Where do they think you should live, then?

[overthetop]

Glendor, sorry to hear about your situation and I agree with all the above. But who are these people, and why on earth are they suggesting it should go to charity?

[MartinBev58]

I was not involved diretly with dementia but I have had some experience as I gave some bits of help to a friend on his own whose father had dementia and in all fairness my father did even though he was older than my friends father.
I can see how hard it is being in that situation and you certainly now want to enjoy the rest of your life.
I was living with my father after inheriting my mothers share of the house when I came back to the West Midlands.
I had phone calls from about 20 people thinking they or other people were entitled to a share of the estate.
When I totalled up the amount they expected it came to more than my fathers and my assetts put together. In my assetts I was also counting the money I inherited from my in laws as my wife was an only living child.

Martin

[mrs_overall]

Does your fathers house have a problem with owls by any chance?

[factor-fiction]

I agree with the others, but especially overthetop. Whilst I am not surprised by stories (such as martinbev58's) of people claiming they should have some of the estate, I'm at a loss to see why anyone should be saying these things in your case. I've never heard of people saying assets should have gone to charity rather than to family

[mrs_overall]

Jackanory, Jackanory....

Brand new AB'er with a sob story....sound familiar folks?

[Flyhalf]

Who do these people think they are?
A person is entitled to leave their property to anyone they choose - simply tell them it is none of their business, but if they want a comment it is that you are honouring your father's wishes.

[woofgang]

yes and it gets BORING

[factor-fiction]

I 'wandered' (clue as to the reason) that mrs_overall but I wasn't sure. I'm not sure how you can be so sure

[mrs_overall]

Trust me factor30 xx

[cathfromsaron]

mix in different circles and get out of life what you can! you have suffered enough!

true friends would not treat you like this ...

[Glendor]

Hi overthetop

These people were so called friends of my fathers and people living in the same road.
I worked in London and came back to the house I grew up in and a lot of the people moved into the road around the time.
My son / daughter went to Birmingham University and settled in the West Midlands so that also influenced me to live with my father.
Just last week my immediate neighbour said they did not realise I had been married and had my own house and never noticed my son / daughter and grandchildren visiting.
They are not however one of the people who are saying the house should have gone to charity.
All these people were so interested in my father none of them even visited him in the hospital or care home.

Glen

[factor-fiction]

Have you posted before about this, Glendor? It sounds familiar

[EDDIE51]

Pure jealousy that is all it is, ignore it , within a few weeks they will all have forgotten about it.

[mrs_overall]

glendor: member since 1929 hrs, Friday 16th March 2012

[MartinBev58]

Hi Factor30

I think you are thinking of my post although it was people thinking they should have the money or their friends.
There was no charity involved.

Martin

[cazzz1975]

people have opinions about a lot of things, I suggest you ignore them. I have no idea why anyone would say that, it sounds odd.