Be Very Careful On Facebook Fall Out With A Friend Says Hes Kept All My Emails

[gordiescotland1]

Hi there over the last year I have been having a close friendship with somebody I met on facebook. It became very intense with regular phone calls sometimes in the middle of the night long emails and texts just recently he told me he has been keeping all my emails. I may have been a bit naive because I told him everything about myself church family etc and my feelings and opinions. Over the last few weeks we have not been getting on and he can be quite sharp and hard about things and quite hurtful he is also full of self pity and I got to the end of my tether last night and slammed the phone down on him. Anyway after a long think about things I decided to email him and suggest we go our seperate ways, he lives 240 miles away and we have never met. Do you think I have anything to worry about?

[TWR]

I said on here a while back that, the F.B. site was dangerous, I'm sure as usual, I got shot down.

[Eve]

Depends on many things, what was in the emails, if using them could cause an issue, if he would use them vindictively etc...

Have you any reason to reasonably believe he might actually do anything, rather than just any threats, have any threats been made?

Many people have copies of emails, I do but for no malicious reason, I just don't bother deleting a lot of them save spam and rubbish ones.

I have copies of emails which I have

[factor-fiction]

Probably not. There must be millions of us with a trail of emails and texts.
I think it's unlikely someone 240 miles away could do much. He's probably got other friends and will be in another intense relationship soon

[jeffa]

Emails? What has this got to with Facebook per se? I know lots of people who keep emails.

[Maydup]

Just ditch that email address now gordie and filter your phone calls. Not much different to any other break up. sorry it didn't work out for you.

[boxtops]

FB is so public, gordie, I wouldn't say anything to anyone I didn't know.... Block him on FB, that's easy enough, and unplug your phone. Identify his email address as a spam address, then any emails should go into your junk box and you can delete without opening. I wouldn't email him. I'd just leave it at that.

[gordiescotland1]

I think your right TWR

[whiskeryron]

Just as a safety precaution get a new email address & only tell those that you want to keep in contact with.

WR.

[jackthehat]

Facebook itself is not dangerous.
The ill-conceived way that some people use it can cause problems, however.

Facebook cannot be held responsible for the content of the e-mails, texts and telephone conversations between you both.

Do as boxtops suggests, sever all contact and be a little more circumspect with whom you share confidences in the future.

[gordiescotland1]

The only other concern and I guess my main one is he knows my address

[Mamyalynne]

Nothing more to worry about than in the days before computers, then people could keep all your letters or write down all you told them. It is just another medium of communication.

[2sp_]

I think we can all worry about what an ex friend or partner will do with any kind of communication we have had with them, whether it's emails, text messages, letters or even photos.

If he's 240 miles away I would think it unlikely that he could do much. Block him on FB, don't answer his calls or texts, and delete any emails he may send you.

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, but hopefully he will just fade into history.

[andres]

I would second that TWR(19.00). Too many people seem to be revealing far too much about themselves on Facebook and Twitter. It's as if they feel compelled to bare their souls to all their so called ''friends''.
Isn't there such a thing as being able to take this person off your 'friends'list?

[TWR]

Not dangerous! there would be a lot of youngsters still alive now if it was'nt for F.B. I'm talking about persons taking their own Lives.

[2sp_]

TWR, Facebook is merely a tool used for communicating.

How people choose to use it is up to them. We don't blame the telephone itself for cold callers or obscene phone calls.

[TWR]

There has also been of EX Boyfriends showing their EX Girlfriends Ex Rated pics on there.

[Mamyalynne]

Mt response was to Gordie, he has no more to worry about than me confiding in someone I met in a bar.


I have no wish to debate Facebook, I use it safely as far as I know.

[trt]

Did you tell him anything that could damage you or your family etc?

[Clod]

Facebook is only as dangerous as you let it be, ultimately it is up to you what you post on it.

Equally emailing a stranger, you may think you know the person on the receiving end but in reality they could be anybody.

Why would this person have your address unless you shared it with them? I doubt very much that anything will come of it but you really should be more careful.

[TWR]

Obscene / Silent calls has never caused anyone to take their lives 2sp.