Threatening Voice Mail

[nailit]

Last week I lent £25 to my sons mate with the promise that I would get it back on Thursday. By the weekend it was clear that I was not going to get it back, he refused to answer his phone and only texted that he hadn't got it. I foolishly left a voice mail saying that if I don't get it back I was going to tear his nether regions off. He has now told my son that hes thinking of reporting me to the police. This is someone whom ive had staying at my place and fed on numerous occasions. To top it off my sons taking his side and doesn't care that £25 is a lot of money to me (my son is currently living rent free with me and I'm keeping us both just on one lot of benefit money)
I know I wont get the money back now but where do I stand regards the voice mail? would the police see it as a criminal matter or just a dispute over borrowed money?
Thanks

[Guilbert53]

Well you have learned one lesson - dont lend money !

[nailit]

neither a borrower or a lender be :-(

[AKMild]

I suppose it depends on how threatening your voicemail was. However, if your son's mate is anything like my son's mates, he will realise that by taking things further he will, almost literally, bite the hand that feeds him. You could text him and apologise for your outburst, but politely point out that you did lend him £25 and that you'd like it back. You could also ask him how he would feel if he had lent someone £25 and not got it back.

[Bazile]

//(my son is currently living rent free with me and I'm keeping us both just on one lot of benefit money) //

Why are you keeping him - doesn't he get benefits / work

[nailit]

AK, I'm not to bothered about the money now, I'm not going to get it back. I'm more bothered about been reported.
Baz, no, hes not working and wont sign on.

[Patsy33]

I think he's calling your bluff Nailit. Lesson learned...

[HansUrbancka]

I don't think the police are going to be interested in the matter.

In the meantime, let your son know that you are thinking of putting matters in the hands of the Small Claims Court for the return of your money. ( You don't have to go beyond thinking)

See then how matters progress after your son has told his 'friend'.

Hans.

[douglas9401]

I don't think we're on the small claims court side of town Hans.

[Gizmonster]

//// Baz, no, hes not working and wont sign on. /////

..... and whilst you continue to provide for him, do you think you're doing him (and yourself) any favours??
No offence, but I think it's time for some tough love .....

[ummmm]

Probably won't be interested if it was just one message.

Your son needs to sign on even just to fill the gaps in NI contributions.

[nailit]

Thanks for replies. Didn't really want this thread to be about my son or the money. Was more concerned about the probability of the police proceeding with a case against me should my sons mate report it, especially as I'm currently on a 12 month conditional discharge for assaulting them.

[mikey4444]

Nailit...like others, I this wastrel is just bating you.

And, like others, I think it was a mistake to lend this beggar anything, although I am fairly sure you realise that now !

Knowing as much about as I do about you, I would have thought that £25 was a fortune to you, in your predicament.

My advice is show this wastrel of a son, and his equally wastrel friend the door. .......You have enough of your own demons to cope with, without any more.

Advice meant kindly !

[nailit]

Thanks Mikey, and advice taken in the same vein. But like I said, needed advice more on what would happen *should* I get reported. Was rather hoping for some imput from BM, NJ, EDDIE et al, but never mind. Seems to be the concensus that the police wouldn't bother anyway (except for the fact that I'm currently on a conditional discharge for assaulting them...any excuse and all that!)
try to help someone out and this is what you get....

[ummmm]

Have you actually heard the message?

[david small]

Sounds a bit like blackmail to me. Keep stum, say nothing to your son as he will report your concerns to the appalling con man. Don’t let this become a hold over your future behaviour to them. What a pair. Your too soft with them both.

[tamborine]

Depends if debtor reports to cops that your threat has distressed him causing him depression & fear of leaving home to work etc. Wait for cops next move & hope youre not reported to them.

[nailit]

ummmm, no, I was the one who left the message on his phone voice mail and apparently hes saved it. Daft thing to do I know but was angry that someone whove Ive helped out b4 would take a quarter of my weekly income and not pay it back (or at the very least not give a reason, maybe he was skint himself, I don't know)

[nailit]

David Small, what exactly is he blackmailing me with?
Ive left a voicemail threatening to rip his bits off?

[nailit]

And I probably would do as well.....

[ummmm]

I was just wondering if he forwarded it to your son. It might not be half as bad as you think.

Would your son let his mate do that to you? I've seen him act very protective towards you.