A B Gents

[nailit]

If you went out on a date (a few drinks or whatever) and the lady offered to pay, would you let her?
Back in the day I wouldn't but now I think that I would. Why not? Equality and all that!
Ive come across some women who seem offended that they are seen as less than able to pay their way. (Feminism I guess)

Been pictures this afternoon with a 'lady friend'...I paid. During one of the trailers she mentioned that she would like to see it. I said so would I...but she'd have to pay.
She said yes of course she would but the underlying feeling was one of shouldn't *I* pay?
Why do we have this idea that the male should pay for everything?

[nailit]

Before anyone asks, went to see Pet Sematary. It was cr ap!
Don't bother.

[Bazile]

//During one of the trailers she mentioned that she would like to see it..//

see what ?

[nailit]

////During one of the trailers she mentioned that she would like to see it..//

see what ? //

One of the trailers Baz.
My bad, LOL.

[bhg481]

You're asking the "gents" (as in "Gentlemen") on here. If you asked the AB "men" would you expect a different answer?

[Cloverjo]

It’s been years since I’ve dated, but back then if he was obviously richer than me I’d expect that he would insist on paying.
Otherwise, I’d expect to take turns in paying, (assuming the date was good enough that we’d want to see each other again.

[Cloverjo]

Just realised you asked men, not women. Anyway...

I loved the book, but I’m not desperate to see the film now after your review.

[sanmac]

In the local bar I go to, the young crowd all seem to follow the "old tradition" of the guys paying for everything.

[Ken4155]

I take it you went to see the remake, nailit. I found the original to be a decent enough film. Mind you, i think King wrote the screenplay for that one or at least had a hand in it.
To answer your question, if i have paid for a first date, i would certainly expect the lady to at least chip in on the 2nd date.

[nailit]

//You're asking the "gents" (as in "Gentlemen") on here. If you asked the AB "men" would you expect a different answer? //
Gents, Men, Males, whatever.
TBF, probably not to many gents around.

[bhg481]

nailit - I was making the point that "Gentlemen" probably would expect to pay, other males might not.

[Buenchico]

Any woman who goes out with me (tall, slim, elegant, handsome, charming, debonnaire, youthful, witty, intelligent and modest with it too) should damned well pay for the privilege as far as I'm concerned!

[nailit]

Clover
//I loved the book, but I’m not desperate to see the film now after your review.//
Might be just me but I found it a waste of £6.....

[Mamyalynne]

As another non gent, may I ask - where did the underlying feeling come from?

The way she replied or from within yourself?

[nailit]

//To answer your question, if i have paid for a first date, i would certainly expect the lady to at least chip in on the 2nd date.//
Me too Ken ;-)….

[nailit]

Buen,
BA straight away!

[nailit]

//The way she replied or from within yourself? //
Hard to say Mamy. Weve been indoctrinated in the west to put ladies first.

[Calicogirl]

My expectation prior to meeting Mr Cal was to go Dutch on more or less everything, but not in a way where it was very obvious, so someone would buy tickets and I'd buy food or whatever and equal it out like that. When I met Mr Cal we did that in the same way most places but anywhere super pricey he'd pay for and not expect me to as he was aware I wouldn't be able to keep up with him comfortably and that it would make things strained and awkward for me. Now we're permanently together we have a joint account and everything comes out of that we do as a family, but normally in this day and age I think women should go 50/50 when dating.

[gness]

Blimey......you know that pint we were going to have together, Chris.......well...... ;-)

[nailit]

//but normally in this day and age I think women should go 50/50 when dating//
Sounds good to me ;-)
Next time she can pay....
(we're not dating as such, just friends...as yet)

[sanmac]

Do people still use the term "Going steady"?