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[gness]

That was my first question when I found AnswerBank. I had some funny and cheeky answers and some really helpful ones....so I stayed.
I was lovely in those days. Having moved to a new town and living alone it was a great place for some chat, banter and help with decorating, gardening and doing things to my new house.....and arranging the squares for an unusual crocheted blanket...... I bless the day Sqad sorted out my legs when the consultant couldn’t...... ;-)

It was a while before the balance began to change. It was a slow change and AB was still fun and helpful.

No longer.....people have drifted away....Flump...Barsel....so many more.

Like many members I’m posting less often. A comment I made in News a few weeks ago brought snide remarks from our coat tail member and his lady friend. Not on topic....just an excuse to have a pop at another member. Nothing new there these days but I won’t make that mistake again.

Today I looked in and saw a post about vaping. I think vaping and using ecigs are different but I have recently discovered something about using ecigs that I think is interesting and of value to those using them..... not common knowledge yet as far as I know. Like the OP it could have lead to some informative and useful comments from ecig and vape users.

Before I could type my answer the thread was going the usual way.....sniping instead of contributing to what could have been an interesting thread.
Today hasn’t been a day that would bring me back to AB..... :-(

[wolf63]

I'm still here and I really haven't a clue as to who is battle who on the site. There are some really nice people and some who seem to be angry and nasty.

I can talk about cats and/or dogs for hours.

Even my brother is posting infrequently which is sad because it is nice to speak to him - it's like us going to a cafe for lunch and a yap.

[choux]

Just remember, gness - you don't need AB so don't give it any priority in your life. Post if you want to and stay quiet when you don't. Many people posting on here don't deserve some of the responses, just rise above it. BTW - low beam is usually preferable ;)

[ummmm]

It used to be fun on here and very fast paced. The problems were mainly at weekends when no ED was about but usually between people who gave as good as they got.

Nowadays there isn't much to add to.

[Baldric]

No-one has to come on AB, it is entirely up to you.

[Buenchico]

Don't despair, Gness.

There are still some members trying to brighten the place up, with Teacake44 producing some great posts lately. (My only problem with them is that they're too darned good - I can never think of anything to match them to post as a response!)

We value your entertaining posts too, Gness, so please don't stop making them. With certain people around here intent on producing nothing but negativity lately, we need MORE of your light-hearted stuff, not less!

[hellywelly4]

You are one of my favourite people on AB, guess, so please keep posting. I don’t put anything on here regarding my political views, as I know what will happen. I just keep my posts neutral. I still read all the comments, though and do agree that there are some people who can be really offensive. It is a shame, but that is how things seem to be going in the outside world too. I wonder what Mrs Overall would have said about it all.

[pastafreak]

Like Chris said. We need you, so please bring some of your mad stories...and some good wine ;))

[naomi24]

//our coat tail member and his lady friend//

I suppose it comes from not being a member of an off-site group of chatterers, but am I the only one here who has no idea who those people are?

[ummmm]

I haven't got a clue either.

[douglas9401]

No, Naomi, you're not alone.

I doubt names will be named though, that's not how the committee operates. :-)

[naomi24]

ummmm/douglas, that's heartening.

[aelmpvw]

gness is one of my favourite abers but i don't know who she means either

[Zacs-Master]

Gness is one of my all-time favourite ABers. But. Whilst I agree with much of what she says, the post is somewhat hypocritical in lamenting former members and criticising sniping / snide remarks whilst she herself makes some vague references to others in a condescending fashion.

Aaah, twas ever thus.

[hereIam]

You're not averse to your own nasty comments from time to time Gness, all ended in a kiss - strange !

I have no idea who those two abers are that you're referring to either ...

[SparklyKid]

Is this a prelude to yet another flounce.

[spathiphyllum]

tailcoat member?

I find what you need to do on AB is not hold grudges and to take each thread and each answer for what it is at the time.

I think terms like "tailcoat member" help keep vibes and pseudo ideologies on other members which start tension on threads which otherwise could just be discussed topically.

I'm not saying you're the issue, not at all i would say the opposite.

But it is similar things that happen where people take things from other threads and try use it against the member they're debating rather than using information on the topic they're debating.

For example, if i'm discussing (lets say..) brexit, if someone was to bring up my career and how hard I work whilst at work.. then I will snipe back and fairly also.

People just need to leave out the crap.. and have discussions and debates without third party ammo.

[Bazile]

//There are still some members trying to brighten the place up, with Teacake44 producing some great posts lately. (My only problem with them is that they're too darned good - I can never think of anything to match them to post as a response!) //

Indeed chris - it's definitely worth staying ( for now ) for Teacake44 posts ; if they continue in that vein .

His post yesterday , creased me up :-)

[Bazile]

his/ her

[windywillow]

///I was lovely in those days.///

Whatever went wrong? :0}

[Islander]

I pop in now and again Gness. I agree with you regarding the evolution of A.B. It is not the place for light banter like it used to be. I miss how it was.