I Met Someone On Social Media 3 Years Ago And He Keeps Stalking Me. What Do I Do? I Feel Stressed And Suffocated. He Catfished Me First Then Continues To Stalk Me And Play The Victim

[ryanrose]

2017 i met someone on social media. we started to become close. he told me he worked in a news station and he was happy with his life, everything was great at first. we would talk about our future together and meeting. but then after time passed we had arguments. he was being controlling. he would get jealous easily. he would ask me to block my friends. is minutes before my back surgery he was arguing with me about meaningless followers. i didn't understand his problem. when we were always talking he would say bad things about his family and people around him. we was pretty close for a online relationship. we had plans to meet. so then after a year passed i noticed a few things wrong. the news station where he claimed he worked did not follow him. the photos on his personal account didn't match the photos from the verified account. all the personal accounts he followed was on private and had limited posting but i use to see them in his comments when he posted a selfie. i never asked questions. his selfies would get 1-2K likes and he had about 8K followers. he told me he was popular. i never questioned him. he has multiple numbers. multiple phones and whats app. when i asked him about it he would get offensive, i started asking him why i dont see him on the news station website. he would make exuses. one day he disappeared from social media and whats app for 3 days. when he came back i asked him what happened and he said the news station fired him for being gay.one day i felt suspicions. i did some research. i found out that the personal account he was posting phtotos on wasnt him. so basically he catfished me. i also found out he never worked at the news station either. i got super upset and afraid because i didnt know who i was talking too on the other end. i demanded him to show me his real photo. he knew how i look but i didnt know how he looked and that didnt feel right, after waiting 2 weeks and still he didnt send anything and kept giving me excuses. i told him this fake relationship is over. after blocking him, multiple accounts that he was following on his fake personal kept messaging me. i answered one. she was his friend from his job and she said he does work in the news station and she told me why i keep starting problems with him. she said its okay for him not to show any photos of himself to anyone and she didnt see anything wrong. she was defending him. then she said he misses me and cant live without me. then i started to realize i was talking to him and whoever that was didnt exist. that wasn't his friend. it was him defending himself. i spoke to the other accounts that was messaging me. they said the same. that he dont need to show anyone anything and they find nothing wrong with it and i should stop asking people for selfies. he violated my mind. that person i was looking at wasnt him. he put a image of a stranger in my head. i was day dreaming of someone who didnt know that there photo was being used. i felt violated and dumb. months after he would try to message me from spam accounts. he would harrase me. he would message me from different numbers. then one day he told me when i finally replied that he is pretending to be a woman so other people could feel sorry for him and he will make me look like a monster. it pretty muched worked. everyone on social media didnt like me. so then he gave my number to one of his friends. he friend messaged me out of the blue. his friend said why i had to do him wrong and hurt him. i dont believe i did anything wrong. his friend was be fake nice to me but really he was instigating and trying to find answers about who i told. his friend was trying to force me into a friendship with him. after blocking him he would come back and try to message me from another account. his friend had multiple numbers too, so then my instagram account got suspended. he reported my account as spam and harassment. i made another. he reported 4 and all got suspended. i didnt understand why would

[Buenchico]

You've not mentioned which country you're in and, possibly more importantly, which country the stalker is in (or you believe him to be in).
[This site is based in the UK but some of our late-night posts come from people in the USA, for example].

Assuming that it's UK law that's relevant here though, this might be a good place to start:
https://www.victimsupport.org.uk/crime-info/types-crime/stalking-and-harassment

[Mozz71]

Honestly Chris, the way it is written, and more so the way it suddenly ends, I think it's a cut and paste job. Probably fake.

[Jackdaw33]

What does 'catfish' mean here?

[Mozz71]

JD, it's basically someone who starts an online relationship using a fake profile.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=catfish

[Jackdaw33]

Thank you. Never heard of it.