will you change city after finishing a relationship?

[mirela]

im thinking to finish current relationship, but feel very very depressing recently. i moved to current city for my boyfriend, so i dont know many people here either. i put too much effort in this relationship too much and im very indecisive person, so my friends worry me hard to move on and may be possible to change mind if my bf talk me around, so suggest me to move down south and start a brand new life? im working at moment, but it is part time job only. change city may bring some financial pressure to me. what do you think? would be good ides to change? cheers

[redcrx]

why change city? surly its better to stay where your friends are, and they could help you be firm with your boyfriend about your decision to split.

[mirela]

hi red, i dont have many friends here anyway, few are living in another city half hour away, but most of them just hanging out for going out, only two girls are close friends, we normally talk on phone, dont see each other much either, cause not in same city now. the rest of my best mates are all lving in different countries, only can be in touch by phone too.
1 friend and her hunsband are living down south, she suggested me to move to there.

[Scarlett]

If you move I think you need either friends or family, or it can be very lonely. Don't stay where you are just because of an ex-boyfriend. There are many lovely places to live. Be aware that living down south is expensive, depending on where you go. Do you have any contacts down there?

[mirela]

hi scarlett, i dont have any family in this country, i was even thinking to move back home, but like what you said, no point to change my life direction for an ex bf. i only got 2 or 3 left here. im thinking about worthing, a friend who is living there said the living cost not that high, and easy to get job in brighton as well. big decision tho.

[cruella]

mirela
I am so sorry to hear that you and Gravy are having problems.
I think you need to sit down and talk to him before you do anything.
No-one knows what goes on between two people, but surely it is worth discussing with him before you decide to move.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do. xx

[Scarlett]

Well Mirela, if you do decide to move to Worthing, I have some very nice friends in Brighton that I am sure would meet you for a friendly drink! Failing that, move to Canterbury and we can have one!

[mirela]

scarllet, thats sooo kind, made me cry, thats a funny world, someone you loved so much hurt you so deeply and doesnt care you at all, but someone you dont know could give you a friendly hand.
are you on facebook?would be lovely to be your friend.xxx

[mirela]

cruella, do you remember rechee's post about her flirting boyfriend, that was me, i was ashamed to use my own username that time.

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Q uestion572226.html

just imaginig how much he hurted me when he met a girl for drink on this monday and told her i am his ex girlfriend?

[tickledtrout]

You deserve better than that mirela. You may feel happier living nearer close friends, could you not go to the city that is near where you are living now?

[mirela]

hi tickledtrout, im living leeds now, was in york before, have two close friends there. i had lots memories with him in there as well, he drive down to me 3 or 4 times each week to see me, i had best summer in my life with him. till i moved to leeds november, i still appreciated those good time, even now everthing gone bad.

[Octavius]

That post above was in May. And we told you to get out of the relationship.

Your post on Chatterbank last week about him seeing another woman and telling you that you were dumped by text. And we told you to get out of the relationship.

Your post the other night about not eating because of it. And we told you to get out of the relationship.

Your post here about finishing your relationship that was supposedly already over. And we are telling you to get out of the relationship.

Are you really looking for help and advice so that you can do something about your life, or are you just going to consistently whine day in and day out about your miserable existence? Sometimes you need to heed advice, and act upon it. If you don�t then put up with what you have, and stop whining.

[mirela]

octavious, i decided already, just he is working away, told him on phone, he didnt take it serious i guess, today when he back, we need sort things out etc. i need give notice to work, visit the city in south then look for accomondation there.
i did take too long to getout of this mess, made myself meriable for ages, glad to leave soon now.

[mirela]

i post this one just seek for advice about the moving city, i never lived in south before, but i will visit next week first and see if i like that city or not, then make decision.
also really hesitating about our dog, take her or not.

[Scarlett]

Do you have a job to go to? Can you get a transfer with your present job? Taking the dog will make finding accommodation harder, as a lot of shared houses will only accept non smokers and no pets etc. Which city do you think you will visit? It is very hard what you are doing, but you MUST BE STRONG and stick with it!