Oh I did absolutely all that, VHG, especially "giving it time". The more time I gave it the more firmly entrenched I became in pud's "90% of computer users". As I encountered each new atrocity, absurdity, inconsistency etc. I made comprehensive notes of it, which ran to an awful lot of pages of A4. I wish I could post the lot here.
I gave the Vista-infested ironmongery to my son. (He is doing a PhD in maths, but I am the techie, so he manages with it.)
XP was to make the system merely IDIOT-proof by the demise of MS-DOS, Vista makes it USER-proof!