Possible Change Of Plans For Christmas.

[Caran]

We always go to daughters, apart from last year. All arranged for us to go and stay for two nights. But grandson has announced he is going to France skiing and to a festival, not arriving home until 24th December. He has to do lots of tests when he comes home, some not until home 3 days. We will be there then. OH has got a bit twitchy about it. He is very nervy about it all as he has had cancer twice and feels very vulnerable.
I think it would be better for us to stay at home and just do a doorstep exchange of pressies like we did last year. What do you good folk think?

[Buenchico]

Would it be possible for you to visit your daughter's home during the time that your grandson is way? That way you and your husband would face no greater risk than that involved in your original plan but you'd still get to spend time with your daughter. A Christmas get-together doesn't actually have to include Christmas Day; it's only a number on a calendar.

[elliemay1]

I think you should go with your gut feeling, your OH wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy it anyway so if I were you I'd stay at home. I'm sure your folk would understand your decision

[calmck]

Has grandson been vaccinated? Think he has to test day two but self isolate from arrival until results. Can he self isolate at home and have seperate bathroom facilities

[Caran]

It was actually daughter who brought this to my attention, knowing how twitchy he is. I asked how she would feel if we didn't go, she fully understood and said we could possibly celebrate later next year.
Another reason he feels twitchy is another family of dad and four children normally come along on Christmas Day. We have no idea how keen they are on testing. My family all test every other day.

[Caran]

Their home is big enough for him to self isolate but it would be unfair to have us there. It would be less strict if it was just his family. And OH would not be happy as it would make him feel we had to isolate too.

[Smowball]

Have to agree with Buenchicho - it’s just a date/number! Could you all have a version of Xmas with grandson/daughters before he goes away, and then one at home with just you and hubby on actual Xmas day?? Two for the price of one as it were.

[Stickybottle]

Can only echo what elliemay1 said
Your oh would on edge and unable to relax

[elliemay1]

I think you have made your decision, all you need is just a little nudge that it is the correct one

[Caran]

All daughters family test at least 3 times a week.
OH has suggested we could go out for a meal the week before Christmas. We do have a favourite one. A Gurkha restaurant that is incredible. We go there for special occasions. So this could be another one.

[elliemay1]

Sounds perfect!

[Mamyalynne]

I too would be inclined to go with your Husband's gut feelings Caran - you can celebrate together anytime.

[jno]

we had Christmas 2020 last July, as my sister had kept all the food in the freezer after Boris's U-turn. And the weather was a bit wintry, just to set the tone.

So really you can do it any time you like. Don't unsettle your husband, I don't think you need to.

[Peter Pedant]

we did the exoeriment.

Two members heavily immuno suppressed - and a guest turned up to a gathering and said - I am just getting over norovirus!

and I whispered to the other one: we can both die from this!

we didnt: I stayed in one room and drank only from one glass

[1ozzy]

So not a fresh glass each time PP?

Greta would be proud.

[Caran]

DUghter says it will be impossible to arrange all five kids. Some working, one at uni. One working in Bristol.One playing rugby. She has looked at the calendar and it is impossible to do. We are leaving until after Christmas.

[Caran]

^^^^^^
Sorry, daughter!