Getting too involved?

[kdawg]

I have this constant feeling of forlornness when I have to say goodbye to a female that i've met.

I'm travelling the world at present. For example, I've just spent the majority of the past two weeks with this girl talking, hanging out and then things developed to a physical level. Today I dropped her at the airport and the moroseness washed over me. This used to happen with my ex-girlfriend (who lived in sweden too).

Does this suggest that I'm needy or something? I mean i seem to emotionally vest myself , or get caught up in the attachment to the point that I feel a tremendous sense of loss.

Am I just too serious or is this natural - how best to deal with this?

[MiniN]

i think these feelings are because you are on your own (i'm assuming) whilst your travelling and whilst you have a girlfriend you feel less lonely and isolated. when the girlfriend goes, its back to being on your own again.

could a bit of homesickness be causing this? or maybe you feel like you want to settle in one place now?

it can be exciting travelling to new places, meeting new people and having all these adventures (i went travelling last year), but in the end, i craved a more permanent setting (well at least for a little while, so i could catch my breath again)

[lil75]

Your little relationships come across as casual (the way you have wrote about them) maybe these women are thinking the same....that thats all what you want....if you are developing feelings, share them!

[pastafreak]

It seems your very short-term relationships do not have a chance to really develop. Obviously you have started to develop feelings,but your 'vagabond' lifestyle prevents it from going any further. You sound as if you may be ready for a more committed relationship at this stage of your life-each time you say goodbye to a potential long-term partner,you have to start the end-of-a-relationship grieving process. Try to allow yourself to look for something more permanent..sounds like you need it.

[seaz66]

I think your like this because you are ready to settle down in a serious relationship

[LoftyLottie]

Absolutely natural. You are with someone constantly for a couple of weeks and together 100% of the time both having a good time together with no worries - then they suddenly are not there. Whether it be a parent, girlfriend, male friend you would be overwhelmed with loneliness - but it won't last for very long. You haven't had time to know the person really in depth and you aren't truly heartbroken when they leave.

No doubt it will keep happening whilst you are living this lifestyle. I certainly don't think it means you are ready for a long term relationship