Ditching friends!

[Rubyrose]

Have you ever ditched your friends for your partner or a potential one? I don't mean for the occasional night out. Like told your friends you couldn't make it and spent the night with your partner, I mean have you ever started a relationship and isolated friends because you were so involved in the relationship to see it?

If a friend did it to you, would you understand or would you be annoyed?

[bobtheturkey]

friends are more likely to stick by you in the long run rubes

[gingerflaps]

Hi there. Yup i'm afraid to say that i have, when i 1st met my partner i fell out with my best freind in a BIG way, she got very possesive with me and kept telling me he wasnt right for me, and it all ended in a big fight with me and her and i ended up in court from it, it was a shame really because we were best of freinds, i know freinds dont stay as close when 1 meets someone special but i wish our freindship didnt end like that.

[Rubyrose]

Hey Bob hunny, I know friends stick by you. I have learnt this. How are you anyway my dear?

Hey Gingerflaps,

Are you and the same partner still together? Do you and your friend not speak at all?

I distanced my best friend when I met my ex. I had been her best friend for 2yrs and we were inseperable. We did everything together and then when I was 16 I met someone and me and him got together and because it was my first big relationship, I spent so much time with him that I didn't make time for all my friends. My best friend moved miles away to be with her family as she didn't want to stay here coz I wasn't really there for her anymore. Then 5yrs later me and my ex break up and I am crying down the phone to the best mate I ditched. We kept in touch but have only seen eachother a handful of times. She is still my best mate and the person who knows me the best. We chat all the time now and I am going to stay with her in a few weeks. She wants me to live with her. I haven't even seen her little baby yet. :o(

I know now that I would NEVER ditch my friends for someone. My friends are my insurance policy. :o)

[squiperly]

Yes, I'm sorry to say that I've let friendships lapse because I've been so wrapped up in my partner. I greatly regret that now, as my friends were very nice people, and in the end my partner turned out to be a nasty piece of work. I'd have been better off ditching him a lot sooner and keeping my friends!!

[x cat x]

Hi rubyrose, just wanna ay iv been there done that. i totally left my m8 for my one of my boyfriends. she didnt like him - vise versa. so because i was so smitten i chose him-taught she was jealous. Must admit after a year we were still going stong then i realised i wasnt going out anymore, i was isoalted, id lost my best m8. Then he started to become violant, i had no were else to turn so i went to my friend luckly she was a true friend after all and help me get rid of him - she did that for me after i ditched her!?? why i dnt no-my tip hun, dnt ever let ANYONE come in the way of ture friendship x

[peterd]

Nope, I've never done that & never would. I know lads that have though & none of them were happy. If a friend did it to me fair enough, but each to their own. Never forget your mates, nobody is worth it