Saying No

[tinkerbell23]

This new year i am absolutley saying NO more....
Not doing things or going places i dont want to or spending time & effort on those who dont bother with me.


SO!! My friend mentioned a book by Oprah Winfrey she had been told about.... Basically about saying no more....

Any ideas what book? Or any other suggestions? X

[-Talbot-]

No

[Mamyalynne]

Ah , the age old dilemma of saying no.

For a very long time, I was the go to person , and usually answered the question 'Will you do me a favour?' or similar with 'Yes, sure what is it?'.


I now reply 'Depends how I'm fixed . what is it?'

[-SharonA-]

Do you mean this one;
http://edbookfa.com/rev900197.pdf

[-SharonA-]

This is a better link:
http://www.amazon.com/Learning-Assertiveness-Winfrey-Modern-Day-Heroes/dp/0823953483

[pusskin]

My thoughts too mamy.

[tinkerbell23]

I mean it!!!!

Im saying NOOOO next year LOL!!!

My mums joining me she said. Others can really disappoint.

We just had the conversation how we almost admire how little
Some people bother... X

[DaisyNonna]

Clench your teeth, make a noise in your mouth. open it wide continuing noise
You have just said no

[tinkerbell23]

Sharon ill look that up thank you xx

[ChillDoubt]

I tend to stick to this, no books required:

http://www.google.co.uk/search?safe=strict&hl=en&;site=imghp&tbm=isch&;source=hp&;biw=980&bih=613&q=didnt+tell+enough+people&oq=didnt+tell+enough+people&gs_l=img.3...2594.13835.0.15807.24.12.0.12.0.0.169.1096.9j3.12.0....0...1ac.1.64.img..13.11.999.Im_Fps6OakI#imgrc=Uwoe1wo41iyQyM%3A

[naomi24]

If you're a 'yes' person, you'll always be a 'yes' person. You might manage the odd 'no', but the 'yes' will fight it. I've been struggling with it for years - with little success. I think it's in the genes. :o)

[jennyjoan]

I agree Tinker - most of my friends are all in agreement. I have far too much and truly do not want any thing. As I said before if you want something then you buy it yourself - end of.

[Old_Geezer]

In my experience women have no problem saying "No". Followed by words to the effect of, "Let's just be friends".

[naomi24]

OG, slapped knees!

[tinkerbell23]

Awwww poor OG!!! You need a yes woman lol!!!

Thanks naomi.... Seems it is!!

If you know what i mean ... I dont mind being the way I am... I wish others cared as much though? I know i cant control that!

If i pump a few more NOs out we shall see xx

[naomi24]

:o)

[Baldric]

Why the heck do you need a book?
If you mean it just say No!

[-Talbot-]

Mr Tinkerbell won't be too happy with this.

[craft1948]

I'm just absurdly happy that I've just managed to get a Xmas delivery slot with Tesco...