>>> I just type in hotmail.com and log in from there
That means that you're using a web-based service. The 'proper' way to send and receive email (i.e. the way it was designed for and the way that nearly all businesses still use) is to access it via a specific programme for the task (such as Outlook Express).
'Webmail' (accessed through a web browser, and what you're using) came later and, while it offers certain advantages, it's not as easy to take full control of your mail that way. So, for example, you lose much of the ability to filter out spam.
I wouldn't touch Hotmail/Outlook with an infinite number of the proverbial bargepoles. It ranks alongside Yahoo as the worst email service that I know of. So I've no knowledge of whether this suggestion, from over 5 years ago, will still work but it might be worth a try:
http://www.emailquestions.com/threads/how-to-filter-unwanted-spam-and-junk-email-in-hotmail.2615/
Some general advice though:
1. Never create an email account with a 'guessable' address. Spammers send out messages to '
[email protected]', '
[email protected], '
[email protected]', etc in the knowledge that at least some of them will get through to real people. However if Jane Smith uses '
[email protected]' or '
[email protected]' as her address, it's far less likely that randomly-targeted spam will find its way into her inbox ;
2. Keep one email address private, with just your close friends and relatives knowing it. Then use different email addresses for other purposes, such as ordering things on Amazon or signing-up on The Answerbank. Then if (say) The Answerbank's membership database was to be hacked by spammers, only a 'throwaway' address would become known to them, with your 'personal' address remaining private.