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got to rant
sorry, just so peed off at the mo. a few months ago a 16yr old girl on an internet game started chatting to my hubby and in her messages she would say things like 'luv ya loads' and 'your little rogue just seeing how u r'. now i got annoyed over this and sent her a voicemail telling her to pack it in and my hubby said, don't be stupid, she's just a kid, and she told me she is no threat to me as she has a fella., but i still got annoyed as she started texting him.
he stopped talking to her for a bit and then tonite i find him chatting to her and calling her 'hun' which really peed me off. then she asked him if i was around, i just want to call her and tell her to stay away from him. feeling so depressed and just want to cry, especially as i am not well at the mo.
just need a few words of advice from some friends.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Good point that she plays on the fact that she is depressed... men seem to be pretty naive when it comes to girls that like to manipulate men. Its like when you go out with your man and through the night a girl seems to be paying a little "to much" attention to your man.. and he seems to smile and laugh back with her.. mean while you can see her flurting and its just ******* you off.. then later when you confront him ... he says.. she wasnt flirting.. we were just talking about stuff... and of course you think he's lying, but then you realize that yes she was flirting with him .. but he "being a man" was just thinking they were having a chat like he would with anybody, right...
Well I hope some of that made sence.. good luck my dear... Things always find away of working out.
hi nattab, sorry to hear of your demise.
could you show him all these replies and let him see how other people view the situation ?
at the moment this probably is all innocent, and possibly this girl is feeding his ego. However, knowing how hurtful this is to you, even IF it is innocent, is VERY disrespectful of your husband. Tell him to grow up, tell HER to find a counsellor !!
good luck hun!
Hi Nattab
I think everybody is right- its not acceptable and should only get to a certain level of chat and thats enough. You arent being over the top and are quite within your rights to be upset. Tell him how upset it is making you feel and how dangerous it is- this girl could be anyone and if she is 16 she is too young to know any better. Your husband needs to stop this. How would he feel if the roles were reversed and a man was calling you hun etc? I hope it all works out for youx
Take a couple of minutes to get things clear in your own head.
You feel that he is treating you badly/being disrespectful - right?
Do you want to be with someone who is treating you this way/making you feel this way?
If the answer is yes, I don't think you would have posted this question.
If the answer is no, then sit him down (with the computer/phone etc turned off) and tell him that what he is doing is hurtful to you. Tell him that you find his behaviour unacceptable and therefore you need to know whether he plans to stop it or not so that you can decide whether you are able to stay with him or not.
If the penny drops with him and he doesnt want to lose you, he will stop.
If not, then pack your bags and go - without a backward glance.
Don't stay with someone who thinks so little of you.
I am sure you would give the same advice to someone else if they were in your situation.
Best of luck to you.