Truning 30

[Jennykins]

Why do people act like 30 is so old and scary? A girl friend of mine truned 30 today and she is almost in tears.. she says now she is old and she asked me if she is still good looking or if she just looks old.. sounds dumb and shallow I know, but my brother is turning 30 also and he gets a little pi$$ed if you even mention it.. what is so wrong with 30? To me 30 of course is still sexy young and fun.. Do people only thing the 20's are the fun and sexy years?

Last winter I ran one morning with a lady who was 74, we ran for 90 something mins and she was hard to keep up with... and she had a great body on her.. so why do people make such a big deal about 30? should I trun into a plain prune at 30? lol

[kick3m0n]

Hi Jennykins! I'm 35 and have honestly never felt happier in my own skin. I used to think women who were in their 30s who said that were mad, old, deluded hags, but they weren't lol. I feel happier inside and out, and if I 've got a few more wrinkles and some grey hairs, I don't actually care. I feel more confident, wiser and more settled than I ever did in my 20s and do you know what, I don't think I've ever felt sexier either. I do pity people who fixate on a number, it seems so shallow and pointless. As someone above said, unless you wear a badge and make a big show of it, strangers don't know your age, and friends don't care, so where's the big deal? Sexy is all in the mind, not in the body.....once people grasp that fact, it's plain sailing (lol), tho the very vain often strugggle badly with age (which is hilarious to those of us who aren't vain lol).

[Jennykins]

kick3mon- what a nice answer.... I also feel I should be copy and pasteing all of these answers to a email and forwarding them to some different people I know that should read them ..lol... But one thing I have to say is just because someone is afraid of growng older does not mean there vain or shallow all the time, It also means many other things .. like with my brother he does not want to get older because for him the thought of being weaker and one day needing help does not sit well with him.. he is pro fighter and so being young in any sport profession is a hand up on the older guy... One thing I have also herd some people say is.. "Iv hit 30 and have done nothing I thought I would by now with my life" So its not just about how people care about how they look... there is much more to it... I just dont understand how 30 became this mental land mark in peoples minds, and they seem to messure there life, looks&body and acomplishments at that time. I have even herd a woman say " if I dont have a kid by 30 then I wont do it" my mouth hit the floor to here that... my mother had her last child at 35... and I think that was aswesome...

[kick3m0n]

Hi Jenny how are you today? I didn't mean to sound like I was slagging off everyone who hates getting old as being vain and shallow.... I know that's not the case, but your example of your friend gave the impression that she was just worried about how she looked or sounded (ie did she still look good etc), so I kind of answered with that in mind. That's why I said the "very vain often struggle badly with age", which I think is true, but that's not to say that others who are not vain don't have genuine issues with feeling 30 is a crunch time or time for reflection. The "must be a mum by 30" brigade are funny too...I had my first child when I was 32 (planned) and would love another, despite being 35. Another great thing to remind your friend about being a woman in her 30s is that the much talked about sexual peak is definitely true! Best sex I've ever had has been in my 30s.....I know what I like and I have the confidence to get it, which I didn't when I was younger. I think it's liberating being 30....I feel like a proper grown up, but in a good way, not a bogged-down-by-responsibility-life-is-passing-me-by way. Just lucky I guess, everyone is different. How old are you btw? Is 30 looming for you too? tc x

[Jennykins]

Kick3mon- So well said!... What you just wrote with some of the other post on here should printed out, put on one sheet of papper, and hand it out to many of my frinds! This is why I love this website so much, because I get to meet people like you guys who can get such a good point across so well.. Thank you for all your posts.. Your a great bunch.

Every girl in the world should be on this site...lol