Weddings

[leandrews]

In your opinion, is it correct to get married in a Christian church if you're not sure whether you have any certain religious beliefs?

[ali_alic]

A bit hypocritical I would have thought. However if its your partner that believes then you must take their beliefs into account.

[devilwoman]

i think nowadays almost everyone wants to get married in church wheteher they're religious or not, it seems to be the done thing because they want a romantic special wedding to love and cherish memories, wether its morally right or wrong i dont know but if it makes you happy go for it.

[Maggie-Mae]

I agree with devilwomen, whatever makes you happy. I think people should get married where they like. Its a matter of personal choice isnt it - some people like the glitz and fun of Las Vegas, some people prefer something more traditional xxx

[miss_me]

personally i wouldn't ,yself, only because i would feel like hypocrite as i would want to say my vows to something (someone) i dont believe in - there are otheer beautiful places you could marry in for an equally special day. i also plan to write my own vows and i'm notsure if your allowed to do this in a church wedding (i may be totally wrong on that though!!) Its a personal decision really!

[miss_me]

(*wouldnt want to!)

[Scarlett]

If people didn't get married in churches, they would become defunct. At least people are using Churches. Also I think a lot of people are Agnostic- meaning not that they don't want to believe, but just that god has not appeared to them in any form yet, so how can they be sure? However, put in a position of stress or danger, most people would pray. My Mum for example, doesn't go to church anymore but she went every day when my Dad was having a serious operation! Most people are "spiritual" if they don't belong to an organised religion, and a Church is a nice place to commit to someone in marriage.

[milly143]

I think if neither you or your partner have any religious beliefs then you should not get married in a church but I guess you would do whatever would make it your ideal day.

[Pippa68]

I think it is just as wrong as have a christening ceremony for your baby/children when you aren't a church goer/religious person.

My first wedding was in a church ~ we did it because my ex husband and his family wanted it. I felt like a complete hypocrite and the whole time felt like a thunder bolt was going to strike me ;o)

Why bother getting married in a church if it isn't what you truly believe?

[leandrews]

Oh, just to get the record straight, I'm not getting married!

You can stop panicking Boyfriend!

It was just a question to see what other people think about this situation, as I've always wondered whether it was acceptable or not.

[gessoo]

I think you should be able to get married where you want. However, how could you take your own wedding seriously or think it romatic by taking vows you didn't believe in and taking part in a religious service? Better surely to get married somewhere else and have a service that means something to you.

[Pippa68]

milly143 I was thinking about you yesterday ~ are you ok?

:o) :o) :o)

[Trotbot]

My wife is Buddhist, I am C of E. We had a Buddhist ceremony (which is the legal marriage) and a Christian blessing (everything except signing the register, which is a civil law requirement anyway). We talk to all concerned during the planning stage and religious leaders from both sides were happy.

[jno]

the church itself might have some objections - priests may not feel like marrying people they've never seen before.

[Octavius]

I wil go along with most of the views by saying, why would you want to?

There is a common perception that the relations between man and woman (or same sex couples if we are to be pc) are the most intimate relations that one human being can hold to another; that they are not merely formal, artificial, and determined by legislative power, but that they grow out of the specific nature of man and woman (ditto); that marriage has its source and sanction in a power higher and prior to any human authority.

Many people suppose that there is more 'feeling' and that it is 'proper' to have a church wedding as it signifies you will be maried in the eyes of God as well as the law.

[chazza]

I dont think it is right, I have no beliefs and will never get married in a church

[milly143]

Pippa - I'm doing good thanks. Just keeping myself busy with new and exciting ventures, and getting on with life. You know how it is. Thanks for asking, that's really sweet. :o)

[gazzawazza]

We got married in church even though we aren't religious. I think that then it was either church or register office. Church dos are nice but if I was getting married now I'd have it at a nice hotel or somewhere other than a church.

[sexyrussian]

It is very wrong to get married in a church if you do not believe in what you are saying.Alot of effort is put into a wedding.Flowers are bought the priest has to say the service the church is cleaned all so tht the couple can have a ''nice'' setting for their wedding.If you don't believe in God don't get married in a church.

[marcsmojo]

I'd like to get married on the moon...

[leandrews]

Marcsmojo, I like the sound of your idea, but it could be a little expensive...