Holiday - Girlfriend or Boyfriend?

[glammapus]

Me and my best friend always go away every summer on a girly holiday, last year we went to malia although i had just started a relationship but i went nevertheless. Needless to say i had a stupid night of foolishness with a guy and i confessed when i got home.

This year my friend wants to go away but he doesnt want me to and im scared it will ruin what we have (which is brill and i love him to bits) my friend is gutted and thinks im choosing him over her.

Anyone been in a similar circumstance???

[orange-gnome]

I havent been in a similar situation but I can understand where your bf is coming from...you did cheat on him after all...your friend should understand this...imagine your bf at home thinking all week that you are up to it again. I wouldn't go away without him until he can trust you again...which may be sometime but I don't blame him.
Yes, bfs come and go and you always need your friends but if you want it to last don't give him any reason to doubt you a second time and if your friend is a true friend she will understand that you just cant go this year.
Or maybe take him along too!
If you are going to cheat and you are lucky enough to be forgiven then it is you that has to do the hard work to get him to trust you again...and going away again just isn't going to do that!!

[unruliejulie]

personally, i think if you're with someone in a relationship then its quite right that you holiday with one another. Holidays with pals are for singles. I would be fuming if my hubby wanted to go off abroad with his mates.How would you feel if the tables were turned. Your mate should be understanding if she thinks anything of you.I wouldn't take the risk of losing him if he's really special. You're lucky he's even forgiven you, don't take the pees. best of luck X

[bobtheturkey]

you cheated, because you dont love him, therefore you will cheat again therefore go, or if he has any sense he will get rid of you

[~Wingnut~]

Harsh Bob, Harsh.

If you don't go then you are proving to your boyfriend that his feelings over ride everything else and that your serious, this could help to make him trust you more and make your relationship stronger. You are choosing him over her but she needs to realise that your relationship is going to last longer than 2 weeks away, and if you do go away you may not be coming back to one! Is it worth the risk? But also don't let him think he has the upper hand and that he can bring up the cheating next time he wants his own way.

Your friend needs to understand that you aren't single. What would she do in your situation? Couldn't you go on a girly weekend away instead?
Go on hols with your boyf!

[~Wingnut~]

Forgot to put hope it works out for you :o)

[undercovers]

compromise - hire a villa somewhere so that you and your friend can have your holiday, but your boyfriend can come along too, obviously he should invite one of his friends (pref one that the friend likes the look of)... that way you girls can have some days out having fun, the boys can do the same and then in the evenings you can all party together.

Think this is the only option that could keep everyone happy, otherwise you will just have to choose which person you want to hurt - a decision no one can help you make

[Gef]

I know it's difficult to be honest but put the boot on the other foot. Imagine that it was your boyfriend that cheated on you and wanted to go away again. How would you feel?

I know everyone is different but if my partner preferred to go on holiday with a friend rather than me then I think I would be looking for a different partner.

[kazza12345]

i always go on different holidays to my husband, and very rarely do we go on hols together, because we both like different things out of a holiday ie him, mountain climbing.kyaking me:eating and sunbathing.

You say "needless to say...." well if it is inevitable that you will cheat, as you seem to be suggesting then thats really manky of you, and if i was your boyfriend i would be getting rid of you quick. No wonder he dosen't trust you to be honest. I guess from the end of your post it means you are not going?