Love Complications, Help

[Arceus3315]

I'm sort of stuck with my feelings.. I'm dating someone online that's 4 hours away from me, never met but we've videochatted, snapchatted, I know she's obviously real. There's actually someone else I know online that I've been talking to, but she's 3 years older and lives 7 hours away from me in Canada (I know for sure she lives where she is, no worries). We've talked and stuff, she's also real. I'm starting to get really confused in my relationship with both of these two girls, and it's really making my stomach feel queezy and weird. Should I stick with my current girlfriend? Im not even quite sure if the 3yo older one would 100% date me. We've spoken and she said if I didnt have a gf and "she didnt have a bf", it'd be an 80% chance, although Im questioning whether she really has a bf. If you want to know, I turned 15 today.

[murraymints]

you can hardly call someone you have not met a girlfriend !! switch off computer and venture out into the real world !! and at 15 you are much too young for deep relationships anyway..as I said rejoin your friends in the real world...

[ummmm]

Happy Birthday.

Don't date either of them....just leave it to chat. How will you find the time to travel 4 or 7 hours to see either of them and also how will you afford it?

[grasscarp]

Happy Birthday. As already said these two are not for you. You need to be meeting people of your own age in the flesh to talk to, go to cinema, to go bowling, walk in the park etc. This is what I was doing at your age. Where to meet people? At school, parties, on holiday, through friends etc. We didn't have Internet, mobile phones etc when I was young but we met and arranged dates quite easily. Good luck for the future.

[Old_Geezer]

One can not be dating someone online. One has to meet up to go somewhere on a date. These individuals are the modern equivalent of pen-pals. People you are friendly with but are a long way away.

I echo the advice above, that you should get out and make real local friends. Settling for just long distance relationships across a computer network only would result in an unsatisfying social life, and regrets you didn't make a different choice. Socialise on the Web if you like but keep a sense of proportion & balance, and socialise for real; make friends where you are too.

[atalanta]

You share a birthday with Mick Jagger, Dame Helen Mirren, and me

[Arceus3315]

To be honest, where I live everyone's terrible. It's basically the hood and in poverty. I have friends, but I would definitely not date someone or marry someone where I live. My life is already great besides the fact of what I'm talking about right now. To me, I don't find breaking up with both of them an option. I don't find the distance a problem. I live in Pennsylvania and I traveled down to Florida by car not too long ago. On the route to Florida, I passed through Virginia where one of them (current gf) lives. I actually plan to stop there if I can on the way back to Pennsylvania. Regardless, I am stuck on my decision mainly due to the fact I'd feel bad if I broke up with one, I'd feel bad. As I said earlier, I don't find "neither one" or "go out into the real world" as options. I have plenty of friends, but none of them are truly for dating.

[grasscarp]

There's no need to break up with anyone, in my opinion, as they are not really in a relationship with you and it is not really "dating". You can be in touch with them whenever you feel like it. You don't have to think about marriage at this stage either. e.g I didn't get married until 29 years old, so nearly twice your age. My first real boyfriend came when I was 18 and met him at a day release college. Hope you having a good birthday.

[Arceus3315]

Mostly boring so far, but that's how all summer days are. I somewhat understand what you mean, thanks.

[Bathsheba]

Sounds like a episode of Catfish :)

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[lholmes90]

Stick with what you know. The grass isn't always greener!