Would you back off if asked??

[PinkFizz]

My b/f gets up every morning in a pretty good mood,even when late he always gives me a hug/kiss and a smile and goes off to work in a good mood.But today,he was silent and with filthy look on face from the sec he got up.I left it for quite a while then asked what was wrong and he said there was nothing wrong.I said that I knew him well enough to know something wasnt right and did he want to tell me.Well he just told me to back off and leave it and was really awful.In the end he told me to f***off and that I should know what was wrong(i dont!!) and to use my brain..I asked if I had done anything wrong and he just said that I would do if I didnt back off.Then he got in car and sped off without so much as a hug,knowing full well that i have to drive all the way to Essex this morning which he knows I hate long drives.Im really upset as I honestly haven't a clue what is wrong and now I have to do a 2 hr journey upset.

[redcrx]

If you know youve done nothing wrong or anything to upset him then just let him settle down. He could be the sort of person who prefers to think things through before saying whats upsetting him. Did you have an argument about anything last night?

[atolhurst]

Something clearly isn't right. If this is so unlike him, he's either having a bad day (anniversary of a death of a friend maybe?) or you've done something. But if you don't know what it is, then you need to tell him you don't and ask him to clear it up.

I must say however, him telling you to f*** off is a horrible thing and unless you've done something baaaad, I wouldn't accept that at all.

[gleaveyweave]

I agree, if you are certain that you haven't done anything then it sounds like you have missed something which is specific to today?? Can you text him or call him and explain that you are really sorry but you don't understand what has upset him and explain that if he had told you this morning rather than being really rude to you, you could have either apologised if necessary or support him in whatever it is that is bothering him? Hope you get to the bottom of it, take care on your journey too. Good luck x

[Drusilla1S]

Everybody has bad moods and rows occasionally, but if any partner of mine told me to F. off, they wouldn't find me at home when they returned. I may be old fashioned, but I expect certain standards of behaviour and language in a relationship and would move back to my parents or a friends until I got an apology and a full explanation for the obnoxious behaviour. I certainly wouldn't sit back and accept it.

It is possible that he is the one who has done something wrong and is acting badly through guilt, self loathing and a whole host of other motivations. I hope he comes to his senses soon and realises how lucky he is to have you and makes a suitable apology.

[Champagne]

PinkFizz, he doesn't have access to your e-mail or phone does he? Maybe he's seen or read something about you and has misinterpreted the content? It's all I can think of outside of a blatant row I'm afraid. But if he hasn't addressed anything with you then he is in the wrong for letting it get to this stage.

Make yourself a cuppa tea, relax, then take a deep breath and phone or text him.

[PinkFizz]

Hi all,no we didnt have a row last night at all-in fact the total opposite.We watched the footie and were both in a great mood.The only thing I can think of is that it is the friday his daughter normally comes round for the weekend,and his ex hasnt let her for the past 6 weeks coz she's being a pain,but we chatted about it lastnight and I asked if she was coming over today and he said he wouldnt know till today,but unlikely as she is being so difficult.But that is a subject we chat about every day and he's not like this.

He doesnt have access to my email,apart from the work one,but there's nothing on either that would be read wrongly.And my mobile is always on side free for anybody to read - cant think of anything on it.

[ktlou]

I know it's gonna sound strange PinkFizz, but do you snore?? My mum snores and some nights she snores soooo loudly and keeps my dad awake all night. By the morning, he's in a right stress and is in a bad mood, but my mum bless her has had a good nights sleep and is completely unaware!! Maybe he just had a bads night sleep (worried about his daughter?) so is tired and grouchy this morning??

I hope you sort things out soon love, it's never nice saying goodbye on an argument!!

[PinkFizz]

lol.No I dont snore.He is the heaviest sleeper in the world and even if i did it would take a rocket to wake him,He is dead to the world from the moment his head hits the pillow to the moment he wakes up.

I have to leave here in half hour and haven't heard a word so I am very angry with him,but don't think I will text.They can come across all wrong sometimes which could make it worse.

[peterd]

did you make him sleep in the wet patch ?

[Pippa68]

Maybe all the contact stuff with regards to his daughter really has got to him (I am clutching at straws here!)

My husband also has to deal with this, and although most of the time he can keep it all in and seem relaxed about the situation, once in a while he gets into a foul mood about it and explodes.

I may be totally wrong here & it is a bit perplexing..it sounds like womans mood doesn't it?..you know, unpredictable! I do hope you get to the bottom of it..please let us know xx

[jno]

I share Drusilla's suspicions: he's done something wrong and is getting his retaliation in first, so to speak, by trying to make you feel guilty. I could be wrong, it could just be you've forgotten his birthday or something; I hope so. Hope the drive went okay too.

[Octavius]

Whats wrong with driving to Essex? It's a lovely place.

[electricblue]

Maybe he's just being an ass,it happens,my hubby seems to think that i can read minds,i cant,but i should be able too according to him,leave him to cool off,if you cant think of anything you've done or haven't done,then he owes you one hell of an apology!!!!!

[atolhurst]

I hope this doesn't seem too intrusive but did you find out what it was Pink Fizz?

[PinkFizz]

Hi everybody.Apparently he has beenwaiting ll week for confirmation ex would relent and let him have daughter for this weekend(Fathers Day!!) but she /her solicitor never even contacted him so he is upset that child is not with him on Sunday.Just found out that he has booked us into a hotel for the night and we are going out on the town so he must feel bad for how he acted.xx