My Peace Has Gone

[tamaris]

I own my flat on the first floor of a duplex, I have lived here 7.5 years. A young man has moved into the social flat below me a week ago. I am at my wits end. I don't hear much through the day, he doesn't work, but he comes alive at night, along with his girlfriend and other friends etc. They are banging stuff, moving stuff, loud voices etc. I had a word with him and now I have reported him. All to no avail. I am losing sleep and getting very anxious. I live alone.Last night I rang the police and environmental dept so they could log the distubances at 1 am in the morning. What else can I do ?

[237SJ]

The OP wasn`t asking for opinions. She was asking for solutions. Whether people agree or disagree with her should be immaterial. There`s a difference.

[EcclesCake]

To finish a post with 'What else can I do?' Suggests the OP is seeking advice.

[tamaris]

Yes I am keeping everything logged. They have received other complaints now. The environmental and housing have been in touch today

[ummmm]

Post No3 the OP says that whoever she phoned was came out straight away so surely they must have advised.

[237SJ]

"What else can I do" Exactly. Not "Do you think I`m being reasonable, overreactive, stupid, selfish etc.
Tamaris - there is a social housing property down the road from here and some tenants have been great and some now so great but one thing I have noticed is that most tenants tend to be put in there in the short term. Maybe you won`t have to put up with him for too long.

[237SJ]

*not* so great

[gness]

I'm sure you can mull over any problems with your OH, Ummmm.....some of us live alone and it's nice to chat things over on here...and maybe get some posts that are helpful...or just chat while you get something off your chest.....

[tamaris]

I was told end last week that they would send letter/contact him straight away, they seemed to be getting right onto it. ( Friday)I don't know what happened but the fact the disturbances carried on over the weekend suggests that they were ignored

[ummmm]

Gness - I think you're reading too much into my posts.

How was I suppose to know that tamaris was elderly, single and in bad health?

[Smowball]

Why don't you go and have another word with him? Although if you've reported him to the police I don't think he'll be very amiable now tbh

[Mamyalynne]

I think now you have got other agencies involved you'll be best waiting and keeping a log - hope it's soon sorted.


Living in close proximity to others is a balancing act , I have lived in my privately rented home for forty years.

It's a purpose built block of nine apartments, as you can imagine in that time I have had a wide variety of neighbours.

No doubt in the early days my Husband, myself and our children were amongst the noisier occupants.

Now I live alone I take a motherly stance when anyone new and younger come along and get to know them as soon as I can in a helpful way.

Then I have an easier time should I need to point out anything amiss.

I wish you well and hope you get some peace restored.

[tamaris]

Thank you mamy I did say I was there if he needed anything after my 5am visit I also said we'd draw a line under it.

[gness]

I knew before I responded to Tamaris, Ummmm....by looking at her profile.

You said, I think, that your response to a thirty year old would be different to your response to a sixty year old......then you could wait til you have more information before posting your first post.

[hereIam]

Well if you don't know the age and status of the OP ummmm, why jump in with both feet then ??

[ummmm]

I am not going to read the profiles of everyone I answer. I mean...how many Q&A would I have to go through before establishing someones age and status. It's just not happening.

[ummmm]

And I didn't jump in with both feet. I said it had only been a week.

[tamaris]

Yes ummm an ongoing week of hell

[tamaris]

Actually it is now over 2 weeks

[ummmm]

Tamaris - I have dealt with dodgy neighbours. I was answering from the opinion of a 30 something who has other people living with her.

I don't think it's feasible to expect people to read through profiles before answering (although I know that wasn't you who suggested that)

[gness]

Ummmm.......it's not a matter of reading through profiles.....if you want to disagree fine....nicely's nice....but if you want to disagree and name call then a bit of research doesn't harm.

It takes seconds to know that Tamaris has health problems, a senior rail card and spends Christmases alone as she has no family to call on for help.....now okay.....you could knee jerk an answer......but without the drama queen bit and you'd have found out more without upsetting anyone.