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Getting a date
The thinbg is, I always spot sweet natured goodlooking girls when sober but dont have the guts or confidence to say anything to them and am very scared of rejection / looking stupid.
and the thing that makes it worse, is the girls i meet when drunk usually end up being horrible people and not well suited at all........I just really need to know how to start walking before i run if u get my drift, i need to be good at small talk before i start asking random girls to go on dates.
I dont want anything serious, just to meet new people, as I cannot remember the last time i went on a date or even met a new girl. Although ive been out a lot since my breakup, I havent really met a lot of new people.
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Asking random girls out is brilliant. 99 times out 100 I don'ty have the balls to do it, but I've done it twice now, and whilst they both said no, I felt on top of the world afterwards, because I'd impressed myself that I'd had the guts to do it.
Your chances are pretty low to be honest. A random girl doesn't know you from an axe murderer, and whilst they might be flattered and even like the look of you, they'll probably still say no.
So... if it's someone you know you're going to bump into a lot, i.e gym girl, then you're better off starting up a conversation and then trying to carry it on over a couple of weeks. THEN ask them out. All you need now is a way in.
I agree with Nick, I used to get the train every day and used to get in the same carriage every day. As I would get on the train a really sweet looking girl would get off, this went on for ages until one day I thought sod it, I stopped her just as she was getting off the train and said something along the lines of "Hi, sorry to bother you and hope this isn't going to sound too creepy and up front but I see you getting off this train everyday and I think you're really attractive and was just wondering if you would like to go for a coffee or something" She gave me a massive smile and said thanks and that she was really flattered but unfortunately she had a boyfriend. I said thats ok but I had to ask, she said she was glad I did and then we went our separate ways. I was so chuffed with myself that I was in a great mood all day and every time I saw her after that she gave me a smile and said god morning!
Good luck.
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Don't be afraid to chat to either of those girls as I am sure they have had guys hit on them before but just try and make it sound less like a 'come on' and more like a nice guy who is looking for friendship! Don't throw the pressure of a date at them when they don't even know you. Get to know them first... for your sake and theirs.
Be honest. Do you really think you are on the way to becoming an alcoholic if you are drunk so much of the time?
Really nice girls are not likely to want to get mixed up with somebody who can't manage their alcohol intake. In the end, they always end up being bad news and losers. And often, nice sweet natured girls are busy doing interesting things with their lives, not necessarily hanging around in night clubs all the time drinking alcohol.
So firstly try and get a grip of your drinking problem. Do you drink to give yourself self-confidence? Think about where else you can meet nice girls. At the gym. At an evening class learning a new hobby. At a line dancing class, doing some voluntary work one evening a week? Perhaps even going to a self-assertiveness./confidence building course would help you. If there are girls where you work, just try talking to them about ordinary things like the news headlines, what they think about sport, what hobbies they are interested in etc. And try practicing conversations with adults too, just so that you feel comfortable about talking with strangers generally. Listen to other people talking too. What sort of topics do they discuss? Could you talk about those subjects too as a means of getting to know a girl to the point where you could pick up courage to ask her for a date?