I'm Being

[queenofmean]

chatted up.

On Instagram.

By another woman.

She thinks I'm gorgeous and funny. While I have done nothing to actually instigate this (it started over a picture of new shoes) I am flattered but how do I say I'm not interested or do I just go all out and block her?

[Tilly2]

Both, Queenie. Tell her, then block her.

[queenofmean]

I don't really want to talk to her Tilly.
She is lovely but I'd rather just sweep her under the rug so to speak and be done with it.

[Tilly2]

Do that then, Queenie.

Ignore her.

[queenofmean]

I will - thank you :)

[jakep]

Reminds me of a situation many years ago. I got 'chatted up' by a lady in a club (I very rarely went). She asked for my phone number and in my non-sober state I gave her my real one. She didn't call!!!!
Anyway, I agree, politely say No and then block her.

[Butterbun]

How uncomfortable. Many years ago on my way to work a guy standing on a corner said 'Hi my lovely, how goes it today' I answered 'good morning' and went on my way. After that every day there he was waiting to chat me up. I had to change my route to avoid him. It worked. Don't reply to her anymore QoM, ignore.

[ducksie]

Would you not just tell her your in a relationship (none of her business really) and that you'rem not interested in same sex relationships, be a little adult about it, it's a little unfair to block someone because they're chatting you up. I'm sure it's all innocent really.

[queenofmean]

She could tell I was in a relationship ducksie - she said he is a very lucky man.
She is lovely and I will admit she is very pretty but it made me feel a little uncomfortable. I won't tell you about the morning selfie she sent.

[hereIam]

Can't you just tell her you're not gay? I was chatted up by a lesbian many years ago and I just told her that I am not gay and that I like men, she left me alone after that.

[ducksie]

Oh, well there was more to it then QoM, I was hoping you didn't read it as I was not saying to you to grow up, I just thought, be nice for her to know she's barking up the wrong tree, when she knew you were in a relationship I think she overstepped the mark a little, go with the other advice then, or tell her she's too full on, to be truthful, I don't know how I'd react if any one showed interest in me like that, maybe I'd go hide in a room throw out all my techie toys ha. I read it thinking you just didn't like that it was a same sex flirting and that made you uncomfortable. Good luck with however you solve it