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Boyfriend-3 month break. What should I do?
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Hi guys..im so sad. My boyfriend is on a 3 month break with me and Im not allowed to contact him until Sept 1st when our break is up. Its so hard, i really love him and i feel the break is too long, but i dont want to ruin things by saying that its too long as i tried to before the break and he said no. T
he only contact we have is him giving me a phonecall once a fortnight and i feel heartbroken. Ive been with him 7 years and initially we split up, but him wanting this break has left me so lonley and feeling horrible that i cant function. What am I to do? What do you guys think?
he only contact we have is him giving me a phonecall once a fortnight and i feel heartbroken. Ive been with him 7 years and initially we split up, but him wanting this break has left me so lonley and feeling horrible that i cant function. What am I to do? What do you guys think?
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oh dear, that is really bad news for you hun. but honestly, you must try to get out and make sure he knows you are out. if you tell him how you feel all the time, or get over gushy it will really put him off. my niece and her boyfriend did something like this and she felt like you. now he is the one begging her and she has got on with her life and even has a 'toyboy' in tow!! he has never quite got on with it and he regrets it...she doesnt!! good luck though i know its very hard..im thinking of you anyway.
If you have only seen him one day a week for 7 years - technically you have only seen him for 1 year!!!
I am sorry but your boyfriend does not sound very nice.
Do you not have a life outside of him? What have you been doing for the rest of the 7 years?!!! and what does he do the rest of the time? Is he married?
I am sorry but this whole thing just does not sound normal.
I am sorry but your boyfriend does not sound very nice.
Do you not have a life outside of him? What have you been doing for the rest of the 7 years?!!! and what does he do the rest of the time? Is he married?
I am sorry but this whole thing just does not sound normal.
sizzle i reaaly feel for you remembering you last post about him he doesn't sound very nice and i don't think you had a very equal relationship. I know its hard but trying going out and doing you own thing, enjoy yourself with out him, maybe you'll find at the end of the three months that don't need him afterall.
Most people say they want a break. If they find somone else they dump you if they dont after 3 months then they get back with you, because hey you'll do. He sounds like an arse just for asking for a break. He cant make you feel like that. Tell him either he wants you or he doesnt and not to mess you about.
i'm a old fashion. i believe if two people love and care for, and about each other they would look out for each other, and have thoughts and plans of staying together. they would not want to be apart. to me this guy is having seconds thoughts, maybe viewing other 'birds'. after being together for 7 years and then needs time away, i smell a rat.
focus on yourself and do nice things for you, why would you pine away on someone who does not reciprocate the same feelings? hold you head high, chin up and cheer up!
focus on yourself and do nice things for you, why would you pine away on someone who does not reciprocate the same feelings? hold you head high, chin up and cheer up!
I really feel for you sizzle, i found out my boyfriend was a lying rat yesterday and promptly dumped him! the hardest thing i've ever done coz i love him more than anything, but you cant let them drag you down, having a break is a sign they don't really want to be with you so please don't get your hopes up too much that its a given you will get back together at the end of the three months, try getting on with your life and meeting new people and be prepared for the worst come september. Although i hope you get the out come you want!
take care and have fun! thats what i'm going to try to do! xx
take care and have fun! thats what i'm going to try to do! xx
aww i really feel for you, its horrible when 2 people drift off in diferent directions like that, obviously he can live without you but you cant live without him :o(
You have to get throu this time as strong as you can and realise there is life without him, and soon as he knows you have a life and friends away from him, i bet you anything he will be calling you more than once a fortnight! you also have to remember he is not the only guy in the world...you have a choice in what happens in your life....you can wait for this guy and pander to his desires or you can have a life and myb possibly meet sombody who actually wants to be with you and makes you happy too....remember you have a choice :o)
You have to get throu this time as strong as you can and realise there is life without him, and soon as he knows you have a life and friends away from him, i bet you anything he will be calling you more than once a fortnight! you also have to remember he is not the only guy in the world...you have a choice in what happens in your life....you can wait for this guy and pander to his desires or you can have a life and myb possibly meet sombody who actually wants to be with you and makes you happy too....remember you have a choice :o)
Er hon, he has dumped you. I'm sorry to be blunt but the whole "lets have a break, dont contact me at all" thing is rubbish, it's used by cowards as an easier option than having the guts to finish things properly. What they usually mean is "Dont contact me for three months, in which time I will do whatever I want with whoever I want, and hopefully, in the meantime you will foget about me and I'll get off easy".
and even if he was telling the truth, do you really have so little self respect that you would let a guy treat you like that? Like a little kid, "you can do this, but you cant do that" YEAH RIGHT!!
Tell him where to go hon, find someone better!
and even if he was telling the truth, do you really have so little self respect that you would let a guy treat you like that? Like a little kid, "you can do this, but you cant do that" YEAH RIGHT!!
Tell him where to go hon, find someone better!
I'm sorry to say this, but normally a break of a week would suffice to see how you feel about a long term partner... If he wants 3 months he is probably going to see what else is on offer before he dumps you (just my opinion).
And if he does need 3 months to realise that, he doesn't derserve to have you, good luck honey.
Oh and in the meanwhile Ignore his calls, get yourself a new look, new haircut etc and show him that you can live without him and when he tries to come crawling back, tell him it's not what you want anymore and bye bye.
And if he does need 3 months to realise that, he doesn't derserve to have you, good luck honey.
Oh and in the meanwhile Ignore his calls, get yourself a new look, new haircut etc and show him that you can live without him and when he tries to come crawling back, tell him it's not what you want anymore and bye bye.
Just reiterating what other AB'ers have said previously - and I am sorry this sounds harsh - this is your bloke's pathetic attempt at letting you down gently in the hope that you will conclude it is over in this 3 month period.
This happened to a female friend of mine, who's bloke gave her exactly the same line "I will phone you on X day to tell you what I want to do!" Amazed at his front, I persuaded her to confront him immediately - his action of course, was to dump her on the spot, admitting he had been too spineless to do it any other way. She hated me for putting her in the position at the time, but has subsequently thanked me for not letting such a loser dangle her on a string for a few months.
I'm sorry you feel so down, but this is no way for him to treat somebody he supposedly cares about, especially after such a long time together. I would suggest you phone him and tell him you never want to hear from him again.
Sorry - I know its hard for you not wanting to see its over, but I think you know it is in your heart of hearts. Chin up though - plenty more pebbles on the beach, even if you don't feel like visiting the coast for a while.
This happened to a female friend of mine, who's bloke gave her exactly the same line "I will phone you on X day to tell you what I want to do!" Amazed at his front, I persuaded her to confront him immediately - his action of course, was to dump her on the spot, admitting he had been too spineless to do it any other way. She hated me for putting her in the position at the time, but has subsequently thanked me for not letting such a loser dangle her on a string for a few months.
I'm sorry you feel so down, but this is no way for him to treat somebody he supposedly cares about, especially after such a long time together. I would suggest you phone him and tell him you never want to hear from him again.
Sorry - I know its hard for you not wanting to see its over, but I think you know it is in your heart of hearts. Chin up though - plenty more pebbles on the beach, even if you don't feel like visiting the coast for a while.
Dont even give him that phone call, get your glad rags on, go out on the town with the girls & let your hair down, let other people tell him what he's missing after a few missed calls he'l be wondering why you've not been in touch! My ex done it to me she said not to ring her & like a mug i hung on, it didn't do me any favours, so go out & enjoy yourself, go get em tiger.
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