sex on 1st date?

[pie man]

do you think that you can respect someone who you have sex with on the first date? also are you able to then have a long term relationship with them?

[boro1986]

I think you can (girls might think differently) my reasons are you are both adults and if you both like each other i dont see the problem good for you good for them.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, it all depends on how well you know them i think. Also, like boro says, girls think differently.
Obviously if you have only just met them and you dont know anything about them, i dont think there is any respect there whatsoever. But , if you know a little about them first anyway, then i dont see why you should think any less of them if its what you both wanted. Regarding the longterm relationship, thats what usually comes after anyway, if you like them enough...

[ummmm]

Depends if you know them already. but generally I would say No, I don't think you should have sex on the first date.

[China Doll]

If you don't respect them then why are you having sex with them in the first place?! That makes no sense whatsoever. Or perhaps it's the ever popular 'wam bam thank you mam ' approach? Gets me giddy everytime...

Anyway, yes, it's possible to have sex with someone on a first date and still respect them as a person. Frankly, if you can't then you might want to look at your own knicker elastic and ask if you respect yourself since you would also have been involved in sex on the first date.

Long term relationship - Jumping the gun a bit. But yeah, no reason why not. As long as there's a basis there for something to develop. And the other person agrees. Just see how it goes.... oh yeah, and as long as the other person believes that you can respect someone who has had sex with you on a first date...

[lizzydrippin]

Totally agree with everything China Doll just wrote.

[pie man]

thanks for your answers. chinadoll can I point out that the question was not about me just asking for opions from others about themselves.
Personally its someting I would not do but as I've reached yet another crossroads in my life curiosity took over. Thanks any way.

[Eve]

I can't see the problem if it's between two consenting adults.

I've had relationships which guys i slept with on the first date and it's worked fine.

There are all kinds of different scenarios and everyone's different, it's not possible to say a definite yes or no. Different types as well, having sex could mean anything from a drunken fumble to tenderly making love.

[noxlumos]

Of course you can. Recreational sex is exactly that for both sides, women are no less for engaging in it. I'd be very concerned about entering into a relationship with someone who DIDN'T find it acceptable as I'd be hesitant about their views on other things and obviously their opinion of me since I think it's perfectly acceptable. Your body is your own, it's not for anyone else to judge you on how you choose to use it.

[ummmm]

Well said Nox....Ive yet to come across a man who wouldn't have sex on the first date. I have however come across dozens of men that would judge a girl for doing it. My opinions on sex on the first date has been formed from growing up in a mans pub and listening to what they would say about women.

[boro1986]

Most woman wont like this but hey im been honest. If i havent slept with them in two weeks i assume they aint that into me and stop answering their calls etc. Im not a bad person really tho x

[ummmm1]

Would that depend on how many times you see her in 2 weeks boro?

[mnko]

iwhen i met my partner we had known eachother 4 2 weeks talking online and on the phone, but our 1st proper date we did have sex many times infact, that was just over 5 years ago. 2 kids later were still 2gether and certainly in love. so 2 answer ur question yes you can have sex on the first date andhave a long term relationship with them,

[loulee89]

Im 17 and my first two dates with my ex (22) were both at his house, watching a dvd, etc. The second date, one thing led to another and i slept with him. Being only the second person ive slept with, its not something id do regularly and i worried whether he'd think i was easy, especially with him being older. However we both said although it might have been too soon, we both liked each other alot and knew it would lead to a relationship, so we werent too bothered.
Ironically i was with him all of 4 months (he had committment issues). But at least i knew it wasnt because i slept with him too soon!

[Rebecca_SJ]

I married the guy!