Do You Ever Forget Your Exes? And Do They Ever Forget You?

[Helloemhere]

I wish I never meet my ex. She's such a dangerous woman!!

[nailit]

//I haven't got any exes. Met my wife when I was 16 and she was 14, married 5 years later and still together after 51 very happy years. //
Posts like this in some ways make me envious. But in other ways make me curious....
Don't you ever consider what it would be like to bed another partner?
Don't mean to be facetious or anything but at aged 50 ive had several different partners and they've all been different?

[bhg481]

nailit - no, it's never ocurred to me. I'm so happy with the one I've got that I wouldn't risk losing her. We just seem perfectly suited to each other, liking all the same things and prefer each other's company to anyone else's. Too valuable to risk.

[Islay]

bhg that's how I feel about my darling husband although there are times I could cheerfully strangle him and him me I suppose!! lol

[nailit]

bhg, then (like I do Islay) tip my hat to you m8 and wish you loads of happiness. :-)

[Captain2]

I remember all my Exes with great fondness - it just wasn't to be at the time.
I still meet my ex wife at parties (those of 'our' friends when we were together) and it's just lovely talking to her again.
And then, there's the one that got away (my fault) - if only! and where would we be now?
PS extremely happy still with my wife of 23 years - many more years to come please.

[bhg481]

Thanks for that, nailit.

[Mamyalynne]

Some people cope better with variety and others like myself. Islay.bhg etc prefer the constancy of a long devoted relationship.


It is what suits you that matters.

[nailit]

//prefer the constancy of a long devoted relationship//
So would a lot of us Mamy, but it wasn't to be...
Ive had a variety, admitaditlly, but it wasn't a choice, it was a hope.

[Mamyalynne]

True, we don't always get what we hope for - I know how very lucky I was.

[Prudie]

I remember mine because there aren't that many and i think I wanted the constancy of forever with all of them, it needs two to keep that choice going though.

[bhg481]

divebuddy - I wouldn't say "afraid" is the right word; I'm just not, and never have been, a risk-taker (some would say stick-in-the-mud).

[bhg481]

divebuddy - I understand what you were saying and I think you have a valid point.

[jourdain2]

I was married to my first husband for over 25 years before things went very pear-shaped. He is the father of my children. Gradually, over the course of 15 years, we bumped into each other occasionally and his new wife (only 8 yrs. older than my eldest daughter). Eventually, through a family crisis, we were thrown together for a cup of tea, and we got along fine. Birthday and Xmas cards level.

No. 2 was very different - presented as charming and caring, isolated me, had to take me to France to do so, became control freak ' par excellence' and morphed into psychopath who attempted (twice) to strangle me. I am scared of him finding me t.b.h.. He knew where I was in France, but I was very careful with my contact details once I left there. Saw a guy looked a bit like him the other day and my heart raced in panic.

Thank God that No. 3 is a genuine guy - took a lot to persuade me to marry him, as you can imagine. I love him dearly.

In answer - I'd meet No. 1 quite happily. No 2 I'd ring the police. That doesn't help at all does it? :)

[gness]

I have only the one ex....and as our son is his double I can hardly forget him....not that I want to....we had a good time....lots of fun....but we just grew apart....wanted different things and he met someone more like him and who wanted the same things.

I'm glad about that....he deserved someone who loved him more than I did.....and when I see them together I'm so happy that she makes him really happy.....

I still befuddle and amuse him as much as I did when we were married......but he tries to hide it because his next wife is comletely confused by me....hey ho..... ;-)