What Should You Do If Your Partner Wants You To Delete A Facebook Friend, Because He "does Not Like It"?

[reallyreally]

One day, a couple was hanging out and a Facebook notification popped up on the girl's phone.

The message was from a male friend whom the girl knew a few years back via a social networking site.

The message read "Hey, are you single now?" The guy saw the notification and told the girl to ignore the message and
delete the friend from Facebook. When the girl asks "Why?", the guy said "Because I don't like it."
What do you think the girl should do?

1. Ignore the message and delete the male friend
2. Reply the message to say she is attached and delete the male friend
3. Ignore the message and leave the male friend in her friend's list
4. Reply the message to say she is attached and leave the male friend in her friend's list

[Mamyalynne]

4 but add - message me in a week, things may change.

[Prudie]

It really depends on their relationship - the motive could be anything from control to insecurity. If it was my partner with whom I'm in a close relationship then 1 if it made him happier and I'd hope he would do the same.

[woofgang]

I agree with Prudie. It depends a lot on other circs. In any case I would talk it through gently with partner and not do anything hastily unless of course it was the proverbial straw.

[Mamyalynne]

Sorry for my levity but I saw 'they were hanging out' and it didn't sound very serious.

Have possibly misconstrued that.

[Butterbun]

I agree with mamy. No.4. That is how controlling starts.

[elliemay1]

Agree with No.4

[atalanta]

If your partner is trying to control your behaviour, he's the one who should be deleted. Men with controlling behaviour only get worse. If you do as he wants this time, his next demand could be even more unreasonable. Either you get him to stop controlling you now, or you give him the elbow. Otherwise you could be on the slippery slope to domestic violence. And don't dismiss this idea - most domestic violence starts so small that the woman dismisses the first few incidents as trivial.

[Islay]

No 4 and tell him if he is that insecure then he needs to seek help

[david small]

Number 1. No good can come from causing insecurities.

[Old_Geezer]

5. Do what you want with the message and talk seriously, and listen equally seriously, to the guy regarding his insecurities and your joint issues with the relationship.