Have You Ever Been Ostracized

[nailit]

By family, friends, co-workers etc?
If so, how did you cope with it?

[TWR]

Not bad my Apple just getting with life as we do, be careful in that garden, a lot of accidents happen there xx

[Baldric]

Ah, Ok.

[Eleena]

We talk when necessary regards family responsibilities, but no chat otherwise.

[nailit]

OK thanks Eleena.

[TWR]

Nalit, F Them, when they start paying your bills that's the time to worry.

[Eleena]

It's important to accept and move on for your sanity.

[nailit]

http://www.alternet.org/culture/social-death-penalty-why-being-ostracized-hurts-even-more-bullying

Not always as easy as F them.

Professor Kiplin Williams (Google is your friend here) has some extensive research in the experience of been ostracized.

[Eleena]

My doctors notes for that period are reported as 'low mood' .. no thoughts of suicide. I was offered counselling, I chose my own.

[TWR]

Nailit, I have been bullied in my life, that was sorted by myself, I have been Ostracized by telling the truth, does it bother me?

[nailit]

I tip my hat to you Eleena (seriously, no sarcasm intended)

[nailit]

TWR, same as Eleena...

[Eleena]

It's just survival Nailit, sink or swim, it was making me ill.

[TWR]

Eleena, that's the way my friend xx

[nailit]

I know that you don't want to Eleena, but ur story might have been some value to me at the mo but I respect that you don't want to share on a public forum, that fine :-)

[Quoi]

quite a few years ago I was on a team building exercise as part of an MBA course. We had to solve problems and find clues etc using land rovers and quad bikes in the countryside. On one of the challenges we were supposed to build a bridge across a river to get a message under a stone arch but I reached over and got it. I felt we cheated and ought to try the challenge anyway but I was voted down 6-1. It was me who ostracised them though ;)

[nailit]

I know there are many variables but I can understand why spree killers end up the way they are. (not saying that I'm about to become a spree killer.....)
But spree killers have often been consistently ostracized.

[nailit]

// It was me who ostracised them though ;) //
Best get in there first Quoi.....

[Quoi]

I understood spree killing that day as well though lol

[tamborine]

By my MIL who poisoned all against me. As I have lots of siblings I concentrated my life towards them, happily.

[nailit]

Still a bit of a bummer Quio tho, that a family that you've trusted for 50 yrs has ostracized you without your knowing it. And on finding out (and voicing it) ostracize you even more....
Like I said, I can really understand how people become spree killers....