Love at first sight? Can it happen?

[Spcl22]

Hiya, just wanted to know your thoughts on the whole 'love at first sight' thang. Do
you believe? The reason why I'm asking, is that a very close friend of mine has met a new beau, she is head over heels in love with him and I honestly, have never seen her so happy. But, I'm a little concerned, as he has proposed and she has accepted.....she's known him for 7 weeks. What do you think? Am I worrying about
nothing? I was honest with her and said that its fab news, but was she really sure after 7 weeks.... From what she said, I think that everyone else has given her alot of grief about it. She's asked me to help her sort out where and when, etc.... I was thinking of encouraging them to move in together first, then set the wedding for
Jan/Feb time (she suggested October this year). Help....!!!! I don't want to upset her and I want to be supportive too????

[Imp y Celyn]

Yes, if you are looking at chocolate cake.

[Karen2005]

I do believe that you can fall in love very quickly. I met my husband in a club and I knew almost immediately that he was special and there was something genuinely different about him. We started going out and within a week or so I told one of my friends that I was in love with him. After 3 months he asked me to marry him. I accepted, but due to our circumstances at the time we didn�t buy a ring and we didn�t make it official by telling everyone. We just knew that we would marry when the time is right. We finally tied the knot 2 years ago and 7.5 years after first meeting we are still together and very happy. I�m glad we took things slowly and didn�t rush into getting married/buying a house etc. It was nice to still have those things to look forward to. What�s the rush if you know you�re going to be together forever anyway?

I�ve seen some couples quickly get married, buy a house etc because they are in the first throes of love, but then it goes pear-shaped. I agree with other people on this thread that it takes about 2 years to truly get to know someone and for the first, heady rush of love to either disappear completely or to develop into something deeper. Only time can tell which it will be�

[China Doll]

I don't believe in love at first sight, I believe in chemistry. That said though I think you need to support your friend and go along with it, it sounds like she's going to do what she wants to anyway.

I just think that if it does all go tits up in the future that she'll need someone to support her and if it was me I'd be more likely to go to the person I thought always had my back (even if they didn't agree) than the people that gave me loads of grief or questioned my decision.I'd just think that in the back of their heads they'd be saying 'I told you so.'

[james_m246]

Definately, im remember when I saw her in the supermarket, I took her home immidiately.

At first it was a little nibble then a slow and temptin lick. I sucked and munched my liquid lunch and then I swallowed quick!


I love my Cadburys Cream Egg.

[WendyS]

Yes it can happen. Within 20 minutes of meeting the person who is now my husband I knew something had simply "clicked". He proposed on our third date after three week and I accepted without a single doubt in my mind. We celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary in September.
Having said that, we were both level headed people, and didn't marry for two years so had plenty of time to get to know each other in the meantime.

[mnko]

love at first sight does happen it happened to me

[Pebbles]

Like Wendy S, I too knew the moment I met my husband I was going to marry him, and he felt the same. I was 15 and he was 20. We have been together now for 30 years and married for 27 of them.

I do think though they should try living together first. What is the rush to get married. In my day living together was unheard of, but I do think couples today don't work hard enough at marriage, it seems too easy to get out of it. Crumbs, I sound about 70 lol

[Spcl22]

Thanks all...... do you know what, you've given me some faith back about this whole relationship marlarky.....and it seems that there is such a thing as 'love at first sight'.....whether it be people, cake or cadbury's cream eggs (must agree witha that one).....!

I've spoken to my mate and I've said how happy am for her and I've also expressed my concern, but have told her that I'd support her no matter what happens.

She has now asked me to be a bridesmaid!!!!!! Now, how am I gonna get out of wearing a nasty girly dress? Only joking.... thanks for your help all.

[janetsflower]

Of course it can happen and maybe it has, so if they are so convinced then why the rush? Surely they should take more time to explore the world and each other before geting married, if they are so ocnvinced they are going to spend a lifetime together why do they want to get their most special day over and odne with so quickly. I would suggest they take the time to make memoriesand discover special places etc together before deciding when and how to do it. Having said all that i knew my husband was the one as soon as we met and were living together within months, it did however take us 3 years til we eventually got married. You need to be on your friends side, if every one else is telling her its too soon go along with what she wants cos if everyone is against it they might just do it just to prove everyone wrong even if thats a sub conscious decision.

[Disposition]

Love at first sight? No.
Lust at first sight? Yes.

[tubeway]

Love at first sight - Yes

I was quite happily minding my own business on 12th Feb 1983 when Mrs tubeway walked into the room - and BAM that was it. I asked her out that night - we got engaged a few month later and married on 6thOctober 1984.
We are still together and VERY happily married.

[Disposition]

So you base a whole relationship on the fact you thought they looked nice when you first glanced at them? If we take the phrase' fight sight' literally, as in the very first moment you set eyes on them, then no again. Love is based on more then looks, eg personality and honesty etc. and they cannot be determined on a glance.

[Disposition]

'first sight'**