Why Has It Taken This Long To Complain About What Would Be To Others Just A Humorous Jibe?

[anotheoldgit]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4810902/England-women-s-footballer-accuses-head-coach-racism.html

Had it been a white family returning from Nigeria and someone made a jibe about the fear of them bringing over the ebola virus with them, would there be a reason for complaint?

[EcclesCake]

Thank you for that clear as mud, original thinking, clarification AOG.

[hereIam]

Definitely playing the race card. Hi aog x

[anotheoldgit]

hereIam

Undoubtedly, but I wonder when they realise that old worn out race card, no longer carries weight amongst those who can see through their little game?

[hereIam]

I think they'll always get away with it aog, such is this pc world of ours today !

[sp1814]

haereiam

AOG plays the race card more than any contributor on AB.

He does it about three or four times a week.

AOG - this isn't a criticism, just an observation.

Regarding this young woman - she should either make a contemporaneous complaint, or not at all.

And if you're going to accept a damages payment, you can't then subsequently complain - it damages your position.

[sp1814]

AOG

With regard to the 'humour jibe' comment - yes, to some this would be a humorous jibe, but others would take offence.

For instance, there are some really nasty thing that people say about the elderly that would upset you, but for others would be really funny. I think we should be aware of how others feel.

It's not 1972 any more.

For instance - back then we could make jokes about laying linoleum in the back of our Ford Granadas when transporting grandma from the bingo, or keeping an eye on our kids when grandad was over - but that's simply offensive now.

[sp1814]

To clarify - I don't mean that you personally should feel offence, but can you imagine if you were in a situation where people assumed you were either incontinent or...worse.

Put yourself in that position.

You've started a new job, and your boss laughingly says, "Hang on - AOG is here...etc etc".

You'd have to have skin thicker than Katie Hopkins not to take offence

And thinking about it - all someone has to do is call you 'Old Git' and you get upset, so...

[sp1814]

But to be honest, I agree with the thrust of your argument.

I honestly don't think this was the best way to deal with someone who offends you.

Don't complain.

Just tell them why you don't like what they've said, and explain why.

It's quicker, and when you see their behaviour change, it's very rewarding.

...alternatively, you could always slap them upside their stupid head. But I wouldn't advocate that.

[Zacs-Master]

I think you have a point AOG, I mean, what if it had been a white family returning from Nigeria and someone accused them of bringing back Ebola, as joke! I highly likely scenario from you yet again, so well done for making such a relevant and well made comparison.

[sp1814]

Exactly Z-M.

Well said (as usual).

[Zacs-Master]

Credit where credits due, sp.

AOG has a way of getting to the heart of the matter without bringing in irrelevancies and avoids spurious arguments. A man to be revered.

I think there should be a statue to him erected in our once fine capitol! What's on that 4th plinth in T-Sq these days?

[Denton]

Baldric,your reply to my answer at 2.13:What should it be then? You know NOTHING about me so don't try to be clever. P.S. You come across as an arrogant know-all,judging by your other posts.