hi, i have a two year old who wont go to bed (or sleep sometimes), she has this new phrase ' i cant do it' its driving me insane, i really notice the difference when she has not had any sweets allday, after she has had her bath i have started using tesco bedtime cream balm with lavender and massaging her when she is dry, she trys to fight it at first cause she know that it makes her sleepy and i really does, i have also just started giving her a weetabix before she goes so that she is not hungry. then half hour later i start the count down, 'you are going to bed in 5 mins, then 2 mins then 1 min then kiss for dad you are going to your bed now' then i take her usually trying to bargin with kisses to sleep in 'daddy's bed' it takes me about half to one hour but i just sit on the bed unless she is really sleepy in which case i put her down tell her to 'go to sleep now mummy be back in 10 mins' and that works when i go in 10 mins she is gone, otherwise i just sit on the bed every now and then telling her quietly to lie down and sleep, i know that this sounds strange but as for the listening my little one used to be the same untill i started taking her to music lessons and there they tell her to put listening ears on and ever since she is great and i can talk to her and she listens ok she doesnt always do what i ask but she does listen and i use the naughty step for bad behaviour and just the plain ignoring really works i have just (took me about 2 weeks) stopped her pulling tongues just by ignoring her and changing the focus from her. is the room too hot? good luck.