All sorts of things, music , walks etc. help me to relax - but to relax totally, physically and mentally, a full back massage by my trusted therapist/beautician (a facial is also very relaxing) is guaranteed. My back muscles have been spasm-ing since Friday (spent some of today in bed with pain-killers). I've an appointment on Thurs.. BLISS!
Seriously, my neuro-surgeon recommended back massage at times like these. You come out feeling slightly drunk and very, very relaxed. Deep facial relaxes very well - but doesn't help my back! Hope this helps. :)