Collections At Funerals

[wiltsman]

I was speaking to someone this evening who told me that when a collection plate is taken by the funeral directors after a service, they take 10 per cent of the total as, I suppose, a sort of an administration charge.

The person I spoke to was a churchwarden, but I have a problem in believing what he was telling me. He was saying that the best way to give money to a chosen charity at the time of a funeral, was to send it direct to that charity.

What do you think?

[Captain2]

Atalanta, If this practice does exist, then, say, £300 raised (£200 in cheques, £100 in cash) FD can 'take' their 10% and it affects ALL donations; better to send your own donation straight to the Charity

[hereIam]

I've never know a collection plate at a funeral, the people attending the funeral generally give money to the immediate family after donations have been requested in the notice in the local paper.

[mikey4444]

I have a friend who is a serving Church in Wales Priest and I shall check with her if this is true.

Personally, I have never seen a collection at a Protestant funeral, only at a Catholic Requiem Mass.

[albaqwerty]

Have never been to a funeral, of any denomination, where a collection plate at the entrance existed.

Have seen notices in papers, stating 'in lieu of flowers, please make a donation to ''insert name of charity'' or to a charity of your own choice.

[mikey4444]

Wiltsy.....The more I think about this, the more I think that it can't be true.

[EDDIE51]

I didn't mean a collection plate handed round. It is on a table near the door. More often a box not an actual plate.
The funeral announcement normally has a note as to what the collection is for. At the last 2 funerals the collection was for cancer charities as both the people died from it.

[douglas9401]

Sometimes on here I feel like I'm hitting myself in the face with a stout piece of timber.

Not a collection plate as is passed among the good and giving as they display their piety of a Sunday morn but a collection, at the door, made after the service, without undertakers having anything to do with it, by the family or a friend with the intention of handing it to a named organisation that is not the church or the undertaker, not even the old dears who rustle up the soup n sandwiches after.

[wiltsman]

Douglas, you say, 'Sometimes on here I feel like I'm hitting myself in the face with a stout piece of timber', then why don't you. If you can't answer my question in a more polite way, then don't answer at all. You go on to conclude your reponse with, 'Possibly not clear enough for the stubbornly outraged in which case, seek help dumbass'.
I did not say that a collection plate is passed amongst the congregation. You have not read through this post. As for you being so adamant that a funeral director doesn't take away the contents of the plate, I feel you are wrong in your answer. I know that in many cases they do.
Anyhow Douglas, although I respect any sensible views, I think an apology for your rude outburst on my post would be welcome. Thank you.

[Coppit]

I have been to funerals where cheques are collected by the funeral director and passed onto the chosen charity. Alternatively, send your own cheque (preferably Gift Aided) direct to the charity and ask them to acknowledge it to the deceased's family.
Instead of a cheque, donate via their website and ask the charity to ack. as above.

[Davemano]

wiltsman, my post yesterday regarding the funeral that I had attended that day is quite clear. The FD took the plate/dish and out it in the hearse.

[Coppit]

Note to EDDIE51. In the Sunday Times 1 Oct.:-
Some teaching hospitals are refusing corpses due to the high numbers offered. Also, when the usefulness of the donation is at an end, the remains are returned to the family. A funeral will still be necessary.

[Davemano]

^^^ That should say put, not out.

[douglas9401]

Wiltsman, I've been misunderstood by your good self for which I apologise.
My online ire was directed at posters who either wilfully or because of a cognitive disability can't see what's put before them.
No offence intended, I'll try to be clearer in future.

[wiltsman]

Mikey.........'The more I think about this, the more I think that it can't be true'.

I'm inclined to agree with you. I was acting as Devil's Advocate.

[wiltsman]

Douglas, thank you for your quick reponse, and I accept your apologies. Regards.