Sex Before marriage

[ieatbees]

Does anyone now wait until marriage before having sex? Or is this not the done thing anymore?

[andy-hughes]

Plenty of people do, although culture and the media would suggest otherwise.

As with sex before marriage, this is an individual choice.

[Scarlett]

I have several friends who waited until they were married, although this could be because they are Christians.

[jake-the-peg]

This kind of presumes you've decided on marriage in the first place!

There are plenty of people in steady long term relationships who have no intention of marrying.

I'm also not convinced it's a good idea - I've never seen any figures but I'd suspect that those who didn't "sow their wild oats" and get it out of their system would be more likely to go through the mid-life crisis and end up divorced.

[Supernick]

Some people do definitely, and it's very much a case of each to your own as far as I'm concerned. I respect people for having the commitment to a belief and carrying it through to it's conclusion but it wouldn't be for me. Sex in a relationship is a wonderful thing, and should bring you even closer together,however in some cases some people simply aren't compatible and it can become a real issue, that you might not be able to work through. I'd hate to get married and then realise there was a big problem with sexual area of the marriage.

[Goodsoulette]

i think you definitely nee dto test run each other sexually before you commit to spending a life time together. If my husband to be and myself didnt have the best sex id ever had I would only be thinking about the best sex I had ever had. So surely if I married someone who it just didnt work with no matter how much I loved them, i would stray.

I am no **** and I have never cheated I just think lust is important at the start of a relationship. I believe there is a [erfectly matched monogomous relationship out there for every single person, where you will fit in every way.

[ieatbees]

Goodsoulette - but wouldn't the sex be the best you had ever experienced if you had never had sex before getting married?! Sorry that is being facetious.

[Goodsoulette]

yeah but even when i lost my virginity i knew that was rubbish. In fact it never got better with him, cause we couldnt bring the experience of other partners to the bedroom. I think one night stands (as bad as that sounds), previous partners, the odd fumble with a good friend male or female adds to your expertise as a lover.

Sex is wonderful if its safe.

[Hermia]

I've got several Christian friends who 'saved' themselves for their wedding day. I'm not religious, but I sometimes wish I was when I look at these friends' marriages! They all have such happy, stable marriages and their husbands seem far more emotionally mature than men of their age usually are. I think I'd want to know what I'm getting before I marry, but I also think there is something special about two people saving themselves for marriage.

[rampart]

mrs rampart and I waited until we were married.

[Uzoma]

I waited till I was married. Been happily married for the last 8 years and we're still 'honey mooning' as it were. We're Christians as well & we wouldn't have had it any other way. Highly, highly recommended.

[Jay70]

I've always been for the 'try before you buy policy'. I also think you should live together before you get married as there is a big difference in going out with someone and living with them.

[Rebecca_SJ]

I didn't make it. I was 25 when I first had sex and 33 when I married.

[RebeccaSJ]

I didn't wait. I was 33 when I married, but I started having sex at 25. Five men have enjoyed me.