Being Fed Up V Being Depressed.

[Tilly2]

Is there a definitive dividing line between these two?

How does one know when one has crossed over from being down in the dumps to being in a position where you need some outside help?

[Tilly2]

Once again, thank you all. I do not think that I am suffering from depression. I am living my life as I have always done, getting up, getting washed and dressed, going out, seeing friends, walking the dog, keeping the house nice, etc, etc.

But, all of it is such a chore. I don't seem to enjoy anything. It's all too much trouble but I do it. I am constantly on the verge of tears and even as people I love are talking to me, inside I am saying, 'Shut up! Don't talk to me. Leave me alone.' (Actually, it's a lots stronger than that!). Nothing interests me ....and on and on. I want to 'pull myself together' before these feeling of malaise, sadness and apathy takes hold and I do begin to retreat.

I will make an appointment this afternoon.

You are all very kind. Thank you for 'listening'.

[Togo]

Tilly you are going to be OK. You have almost reached the point where you will begin to be "yourself" again just by recognising that you are not in a good place. Love to You, and get well for us.

[murraymints]

Tilly you are describing exactly how I felt about a year after I lost dad .and to some extent now with the current situation regarding mum... hope you feel better soon xx

[Bathsheba]

Am so pleased to see you're going to make an appointment :) That's the first step to getting better. Your GP won't know much about it, but he knows people who do! He might just try you on anti-d's first. Good luck, please let us know :)

Baths
x x x

[wolf63]

Baths - I have been on medication since 1997 when they diagnosed Manic Depression. The medicine has turned my brain into mush but as the doc told me - if I don't take them I will end up being sectioned.

[ummmm]

Tilly - at least you're recognising it and paying attention to it. That's a good start.

[237SJ]

Sounds like me after my Mum died. Reactive depression. I was going through a normal grieving process but then after about 6 months I started to get worse rather than better. I could tell the difference between bereavement (had been through that with my Dad) and the depression that I was feeling. I was going to work, smiling, laughing even, going on holiday and carrying on as normal. I could laugh with someone but walk away and want to cry. I diagnosed myself (no need for internet questions) and eventually went to the doctor. He was very understanding and told me to buy a book of mindfulness from Amazon but in my mind I was saying "Yes but just give me the pills". All the mindfulness and councelling in the world won`t help if your seratonin levels are shot. Anyway, he followed by saying he would give me something and wrote the prescription that I was hoping for. I was on Citalopram from May 2016 (Mum died late March 2015 so I had stugged on for quite a while) until about feb this year when I weaned myself off. I have been fine since then - it's as if the tablets reset my seratonin levels. Obviously clinical depression is different but it definitely sounds like you have reactive depression. Good luck.

[Tilly2]

Thank you, 237.

[mccfluff]

glad you've made a docs appointment Tilly, its a step forward. I think a lot of us can post examples of how depression affects us all but it's so varying, not something that can be answered easily

hope all goes well for you

[tamborine]

I think ur just down in the dumps like me. Winter is approaching, shorter days & up heating costs. Shopping is fraught with aggression, parking fines & wariness of muggers. Indoors means cleaning, cooking & caring for others & pets. Phone rings with people inviting themselves to stay or 'friends' call for coffee! Leave me alone....I want to stay in pjs & surf the net!

[Tilly2]

Thank you, MccFluff and Tambo. I'm sure I will be fine, eventually.

At least I'm not still in PJ's. I did get washed and dressed and have been out and I'm just about to go out again.

[tamborine]

Ive got visitors (invited themselves) & have to clean up after gkids invasion yday. Sink full of washing, muddy floors, hoovering due, cobwebs clearing, windows to clean, furniture to polish & cake to bake......eurgh, GO AWAY!

[tamborine]

And I cant smoke coz they dont like it.....well, I do!

[Bathsheba]

Tilly, I've only just got out of jamas, but that's nothing to do with depression, it's just that I'm bone idle ;)

Baths
x x x

[albaqwerty]

have given this a bit of thought, being fed up = the sink not draining quickly enough, the belt on skirt/trousers needs adjusting, and the tie on the dressing-gown has a life of its own.

Depression, slowly creeps up. Nothing really to do with being fed up.

Glad you made appointment Tilly. xx