NoM no-one is jealous of you, your parents or their flipping orangery. We have an orangery, but it would never have come up in conversation excepting this discussion because you brought it up. I agree people shouldn't have to hide the fact they might be better off than someone else financially, but that ins#t what irritated people. what annoyed them was that eating on their laps etc was somehow judged to be a sign of slovenliness and not being brought up nicely. No-one is jealous, just irked at the 'considerably richer than you' nonsense going on and the underhand insults.